I don't know what to do with myself

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I don't know what to do with myself

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    Trepur
    Trepur
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    April 16, 2014 at 4:31 pm #51359
    I don't know what to do with myself

    So I have a crush on a girl from my school. We’re not in the same class and i only rarely see her.
    When I am in school I’ll sometimes catch her looking at me and then quickly looking away again. I do exactly the same because I’m reaally shy to pretty girls, even though she’s one year younger than me (14).
    I didn’t know her at all until one day I decided to send her a fb-request.
    She accepted it and we had some pretty good conversations.
    The only thing I had problems with, was talking to her in real life. I just can’t bring myself to step up to her.

    So when I had to have a class fill in a paper for a project, my team chose her class to do the paper in (they don’t know about any of this). I went to the class with my team and only had eyecontact with her, but I still couldn’t bring myself to talk to her.
    When I was in my own class a girl from my class came up to my and told me the girl had called me a stalker.
    I was really confused and deleted her from fb.
    I still catch her looking at me

    Trepur
    Trepur
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    April 16, 2014 at 4:36 pm #51360

    (Follow up) when I’m walking to class for example, and when she walks by I freeze up and want to hide somewhere, and the same seems to count for her, because she always rushes by but when she’s sitting somewhere she’ll try to make eyecontact with me.

    I don’t know what to do.
    I know I wont step up to her because I’ll probably shit myself, and I don’t want her to think I’m a stalker if I send her another fb-request.

    Should I send her a fb-request and explain the situation or would that be creepy?

    P.S. I don’t know for sure if she actually called me a stalker, this girl from my class only told me.


    denver35
    Participant
    April 18, 2014 at 4:32 pm #51486

    Like you said. You don’t know for sure that she actually thinks you are a stalker. I don’t think that you are. ..

    all the dating gurus have shit themselves more than a hundred times. …

    You can face up to yourself and act like you believe in yourself. she is shy. And so are you.

    You are not a stalker.

    Don’t explain the situation. just say hi through text or fb. Then wait and see.

    Breathe deeply every now and then.

    All the best.

    Trepur
    Trepur
    Participant
    April 21, 2014 at 9:12 am #51513

    Yeah but the problem is more that im not even brave enough to make eyecontact longer than 2 seconds with her :/ So even if se doesnt think im a stalker, i wouldnt have the balls to step up to her.


    mephesto
    Participant
    April 21, 2014 at 9:12 am #51531

    Ok little bro, there are a few things about girls that you should know.

    Girls will always check with their friends about a guy who shows interest. They do this to see if they approve, and if she did this, which I guarantee she did, the friends may have seemed to dis approve. To save herself in the eyes of her friends, she probably agreed with them.

    That doesn’t mean anything when it comes to what she actually feels. Especially when you guys are in middle school.

    Everyone your age is still nervous around girls, hell so are they. No one really knows what they are doing at all, regardless of what they say. (even the coolest guys are still scared as hell and just as confused as you are)

    Girls love confidence, and not caring at all what other people think. So shed the fear of what is going to happen, and just do it. Talk to her, not through a computer or phone, face to face.

    Cont’d


    oc24
    Participant
    April 21, 2014 at 11:35 am #51558

    Confidence is the most important feature women look for. Even if you’re not confident act like you are and approach her.

    Trepur
    Trepur
    Participant
    April 24, 2014 at 3:09 pm #51750

    I know, but I just can’t do it. I completely freeze when she wals by and want to get away.
    Plus, last time I added her on facebook I got called a stalker in my class for a month so I don’t want that to happen again.
    Plus, there’s an awkward tension when we make eyecontact (for about 0,5 seconds) because I kept telling her on facebook that I would come say hi to her and never did.


    George4440
    Participant
    April 30, 2014 at 1:55 pm #52048

    Don’t make a big deal out of it, just act casual. Don’t start obsessing with her and take small steps. Time will solve everything. You just need to be patient.

    Trepur
    Trepur
    Participant
    May 1, 2014 at 5:07 pm #52112

    If im patient she’ll get someone else though :/


    Anonymous
    May 5, 2014 at 12:54 am #52165
    Reply To: I don't know what to do with myself

    hi cool