I don't now how to start the conversation.

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I don't now how to start the conversation.

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    pensfan123
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    February 22, 2016 at 3:10 am #94041
    I don't now how to start the conversation.

    About two years ago I met this girl at a previous job. I found out she had a crush on me so we started talking and I asked her out on a date. That was my first date and we started “dating”. I was over her house everyday, texting each other all day, flirting at work etc. This lasted for about two weeks until we had sex. We were interrupted by her parents and for the rest of the night she was in a bad mood. The next morning I went home and started texting her and she was giving me this story about how all of her friends moved away and she doesn’t think that she should be in a relationship but she wants to stay friends until she figures everything out etc. so she broke up with me. Eventually she started ignoring me and either block me on Facebook or deleted her account. Well now she’s back on Facebook and I really want to start a conversation to see if it leads anywhere but I don’t know what to say. She was my first GF by choice so I obviously really like her. What should I say?

    djames
    djames
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    February 22, 2016 at 12:07 pm #94078

    Don’t overthink this, it’ll lead you to failure. The best thing you can do is say “hey” and hope she replies. If she doesn’t, give it more time. You don’t want to bombard her with messages. She ended things with you so it’s going to be her decision to come back to you, you just have to put yourself in the right place non-aggressively. Try sending her a link to an event through FB if she replies (boom date).


    pensfan123
    Participant
    February 24, 2016 at 12:08 pm #94260

    So I sent a message to her last night and it said she saw it right away but I never got a reply so I guess that answers that

    djames
    djames
    Participant
    February 24, 2016 at 2:34 pm #94285

    I think you’re making the right move, but I’ll leave you with this story that may change your mind. I once tried to talk to a girl through FB because I thought she was attractive (I had never met her in person, but I knew she lived close by). It didn’t go so good. She ignored my messages the first three times I messaged her casually. Eventually I forgot about her, but one day I was reminded of her when I saw her post something on FB. I decided to hit her up one more time and was brutally honest: “I don’t like to bother people but I feel like I’ll be making a huge mistake if I don’t at least try to say hey one more time” and she responded to me.