I may have scared him off

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I may have scared him off

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    Babsy
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    June 21, 2014 at 11:31 pm #55868
    I may have scared him off

    So I went on a first date for coffee with a guy. I think it went really well even though it was very short. So when I had to leave, he walked me to my car, gave me a hug and I think he wanted to kiss me. But we didn’t (and that’s a topic for another thread). And now it’s the next day and I haven’t heard from him. And up to thus point he was texting me everyday. And he was initiating it. So here is where I think I may have scared him off. He asked me close to the beginning of the date if I wanted to get married(I’ve never been married). So I said yes I do. Then he asked what kind… big, small etc. I sort of thought it was a little to early to ask that but I answered and wasn’t going to lie. So…… what should I do and should I bother to wait? Did I scare him off? I only answered honestly.


    kiuhd
    Participant
    June 22, 2014 at 5:50 pm #55884

    No offense, but why would he ask you about marriage and size on the first date? That is not appropriate. First dates are meant for both of you to get to know each other. You did nothing wrong, just play it cool and brush it off. Hope it helps.


    Babsy
    Participant
    June 22, 2014 at 6:23 pm #55891

    No offense taken at all… I couldn’t believe he asked me that either. And it wasn’t in the midst of the conversation.. it was pretty much right at the beginning. The rest of the conversation was great and I think we have a lot in common.. interests.. how we’ve lived and want to live etc. But I still haven’t heard from him and it’s been 2 days. I wonder if he’s waiting the “3 day” rule. But I sent him a message last night just saying that I had a great time at coffee and that I think we have a lot in common. That’s all I said and I still haven’t heard from him. I met him online and I see that he’s been on and off today so I know he’s seen my message. I don’t mean to sound like I’m stalking him or being creepy. I just want to know what he’s thinking after our date. Thanks for your advice kiuhd. 🙂


    Shadowsnake
    Participant
    June 23, 2014 at 12:03 am #55902

    I don’t think you did anything wrong. if anything he asked about marriage too soon. but he’s probably pissed you didn’t accept his kiss if hes a cocky person.


    Babsy
    Participant
    June 23, 2014 at 8:37 am #55913

    I don’t know if he is cocky or not. He seemed nice and he was very interested in what I had to say the whole time. He was making eye contact. And the kissing thing… well call me old fashioned but I don’t want my first kiss with a potential partner to be in the parking lot of a coffee shop. I’m a hopeless romantic! $


    Babsy
    Participant
    June 28, 2014 at 6:06 pm #56550

    So I still haven’t heard from this guy and I’m not expecting to. But I wanted to ask if you think I should say something to him about how rude it was not to explain why he didn’t respond to my email after thanking him for the date or if I should just leave it alone? I kind of want to know. Or should I just not bother? I really really hate it when guys do that.


    xtephaniieee
    Participant
    June 28, 2014 at 8:20 pm #56551

    you’re awesome. move on 🙂


    fatzqueen
    Participant
    July 3, 2014 at 3:03 am #56744

    I knw the feeling when guys don’t reply,its absolutely rude! Oh well they aint as refined as us women 🙂


    Jessemyn
    Participant
    July 4, 2014 at 9:20 pm #56779

    Some guys, more commonly on dating websites, aren’t always looking for long term relationships. He might have been testing the water early to see if that is what you were interested in, or not. It’s his loss, move on and don’t worry any more about it.


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    JessicaV
    Participant
    July 5, 2014 at 8:48 pm #56794
    Reply To: I may have scared him off

    I wouldn’t bother to text or message him. Some people are not grown up enough to say thanks for meeting up with me but it’s not what I am looking for. You deserve more than that. Obviously he isn’t worth your time if he can’t be man enough to respond. IMO