I need a womans perspective

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I need a womans perspective

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    Hoptownusa
    Hoptownusa
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    February 8, 2017 at 12:04 pm #126110
    I need a womans perspective

    ive been in a situation with a girl for a year but she had a boyfriend who worked overseas and didnt come back. So emotions got involved and i stayed around hoping that if i showed her i could be a good guy she would leave and be with me. I know kinda stupid but l loved her. So during that time she would go on trips vacations with him and they would do relationship stuff while there, She would say she broke up with then days later say well we are back together, She said she could never choose between us and i still stayed. So toward the end i realized that this was never going to go anywhere so i left on a trip find something real something more i did i had a great time to. when i got the first thing i did was go back to the girl in the relationship. She confronted me about the other girl i said i didnt do anything, days later she looked in my phone and found out i lied. I justed wanted more but couldnt break free. Should i feel bad for looking for better? Im just lost.


    tragykmagyk
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    February 8, 2017 at 12:47 pm #126121

    no you should not feel bad. what she is doing is something a lot of women who are unhappy in relationships do. She is unhappy with aspects of her current relationship but too afraid to end it. I myself have done this in past relationships. I NEVER went on to date the person I used to fulfill my needs. There were too many feelings of guilt. It was dooming any possible relationship that could have happened with that person because it started as an act of betrayal or unfaithfulness.
    I can almost guarantee you that she has no intention of leaving him and if she does she almost certainly wont date you after. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time hun.
    So in short no don’t feel guilty. She’s using you, and you deserve better

    Hoptownusa
    Hoptownusa
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    February 9, 2017 at 8:34 am #126124

    Thank you, i hate that i feel bad and i miss her. She cut me off and said i betrayed her. Saying that she was gonna choose me but i messed that up by doing what i did. I just got tired and wanted more.

    Hoptownusa
    Hoptownusa
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    February 9, 2017 at 8:34 am #126154

    Thank you i needed to hear that!