March 9, 2017 at 8:22 pm #129682
I’m trying to put myself out there but I can’t do it alone. looking for a bit of help and motivation from anybody willing to help me out. What I mean is just looking for someone who I can write back to about my progess or what I need to improve on.
MosquitoSmasherParticipantMarch 10, 2017 at 9:14 am #129696
I wish i could say i was the right person and that i can give you all the advice you need. I can give you a few names of people that do have helpful videos online and they do give good advice. I am not sure if links are allowed so i’ll just tell them to you. David Wygant on Youtube has tons of great videos, but dont make my mistake by constantly watching them and especially trying to watch ALL of them……if you have seen a helpful video, try to put that to practice. Another very good one is Stephan Erdman.
richiroParticipantMarch 10, 2017 at 2:28 pm #129782
well first and foremost.. stop using ‘CAN’T” and self-defeatist language. That’s #1.
Because if you believe and tell yourself you “CAN’T” then no advice is ever going to help you.
you must believ you can and WILL first.
You must be willing to put yourself on an island and depend and trust yourself.
This leaning on something else or somebody else or else you do nothing or won’t do anything – tha’ts just setting yourself up to fail and with a ready-made excuse so that you neer have to own setbacks and failures.
If you can’t do that – youre not ready for a relationship.
MermaidDreamsParticipantMarch 11, 2017 at 1:08 am #129840
Look up Mind Movies and the Ultimate Success Masterclass program. I was severely depressed then started on USM and feel I’ve made much progress. I’m currently in a relationship and we have had our ups and downs, but are working through it.
King_of_StevenParticipantMarch 11, 2017 at 4:34 pm #129844
Most advice I’ve been given is: just get yourself out there. Think about the worst case scenario: rejection that stings for a bit, then get over it.
I’m not sure if that fits your personality (doesn’t fit mine), but just throwing it out there in case.
Bill_Murray2017ParticipantMarch 15, 2017 at 2:01 pm #130171
Walk with a purpose always, dress your best everyday, make eye contact with everyone you come across every day, stop masturbating so much and quit porn completely, work out. Motivation isn’t usually good enough, discipline is better.March 15, 2017 at 7:26 pm #130228
yes I understand that Rich and you’re right about that. That I need to find it in myself to do it that no ones is going to do it for me. But it would help a lot if I had a support team or a group of supporters also friends here who are like minded as well, that can see what it is that i’m trying to do. all i’m asking is a bit of help and guidance from others. it makes me feel less disconnected and gives me purpose and trying to go out there and improve on my social skills and with women and dating. instead of relying on reading a book to get advice I can do it with others who are doing the same. I can push myself to do things i normally wouldn’t do but doing it along it just isn’t sustainable cause your left with no help or someone who see’s what your going throw.
March 15, 2017 at 7:47 pm #130230
- This reply was modified 4 months, 1 week ago by mschaaff.
everyone else thank you for you’re advance. please if there’s anyone who has any more help with someone who has social anxiety who is struggling with going out. it’s really tough on me for the most part. I’ve gone out solo thinking I can start approaching women or just getting over fears I have. for the most part it has helped a little but I find myself having fears again about going out. I wish I had a group of friends but I don’t and going out by myself has gotten harder for some reason.
sammyyParticipantMarch 17, 2017 at 10:13 pm #130457
just be yourself , don’t be someone who your not
fairytParticipantMarch 24, 2017 at 3:19 am #131023
Look up self-help guides on the internet and on how to motivate yourself! Focus on staying positive. You should also find support groups online for your specific subject.
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