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I need help from a man's perspective?

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    jlt045
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    February 6, 2017 at 10:25 pm #125913
    I need help from a man's perspective?

    Ok guys I need advice. I am in a miserable marriage, and lately I have fallen hard for a much older man at work. He is moving out of state next month, and I would like to have a bit of a “fling” with him before he leaves. Problem is, he is ALOT older than I am, and while he is also married, they are separated and she lives in a different state. We spend a lot of time together outside of work, but I don’t know if he is even interested in me other than a friend, and I have never dated a man that much older than me. I also don’t know if he plans on another relationship even though he doesn’t live with his wife and is obviously annoyed when she even calls to ask for money. I also don’t know how he would feel about me still being married, even though we probably wont be married for long. I honestly don’t want a long term relationship, I just wanted to have some companionship after 12 years of a sex-less marriage. How could I approach him without scaring him away if he isn’t interested?

    • This topic was modified 8 months, 2 weeks ago by  jlt045.

    jlt045
    Participant
    February 6, 2017 at 10:26 pm #125914

    FYI, I am 32 and he is 64. Yes I know he is old, but he is a VERY good looking older man, like Mel Gibson.


    Mr.J
    Participant
    February 6, 2017 at 10:43 pm #125918

    Man like younger girls than them.


    jlt045
    Participant
    February 7, 2017 at 9:04 am #125920

    I would like to handle this in a way that if he is interested it will go somewhere, and if he isn’t interested it wont upset him and we can laugh it off and keep on being friends. The poor guy lives alone and works his butt of to send money to a wife that doesn’t work, and doesn’t even live with him. He apparently told a friend that she hast had sex with him in 6 years.


    jlt045
    Participant
    February 7, 2017 at 9:04 am #125919

    not always though.

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    February 7, 2017 at 12:32 pm #125970

    walk away. bad idea. it’ll backfire on you BIG TIME. besides that you WORK together (unless he’s moving away and leaving your work).
    Deal with your marriage first and always. If it’s a goner – then leave it before you do anythign else. trust me on that.
    in the same way, never ever get involved with somebody else until they are truly separated and divorce papers are in process or near finalization – otherwise, it means they may get back together again (is he moving away and back closer to her???)

    bad idea. never cheat. never be “the other person” with somebody cheating on theirs.
    it never works out.
    you’ll always get cheated.

    good luck.

    Hoptownusa
    Hoptownusa
    Participant
    February 8, 2017 at 11:23 am #126096

    Yeah don’t do it is not worth it.

    YakkityYak
    YakkityYak
    Participant
    February 8, 2017 at 1:22 pm #126126

    Don’t do it – I know you’re emotions but its infedilty – I’ve turned down beers from women before


    TheForgottenLeader
    Participant
    February 9, 2017 at 5:37 pm #126381

    You need to pick logic and reasoning over emotion in this problem I’m afraid! I can see it backfiring big time if you go through with it


    406beau
    Participant
    February 10, 2017 at 12:34 pm #126460
    Reply To: I need help from a man's perspective?

    Sounds like a loaded gun to me, deal with your stuff before you get into any “flings” ….. recipe for disaster however you look at it.

    F1end
    F1end
    Participant
    February 10, 2017 at 4:19 pm #126522
    Reply To: I need help from a man's perspective?

    Incredible that you think the priority is learning how to game this man, rather than divorcing your husband.

    Get your priorities straight.


    calidad
    Participant
    February 12, 2017 at 1:21 pm #126601
    Reply To: I need help from a man's perspective?

    End your marriage first then have as many flings as you like. Your future self will respect your choice to maintain your integrity.


    Oklahomer52
    Participant
    February 13, 2017 at 2:39 pm #126742
    Reply To: I need help from a man's perspective?

    End one problem before starting another