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I need some advice

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    March 12, 2015 at 8:26 pm #75292
    I need some advice

    I’ll start this off by giving some information about me. Basically, I’m a 20 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend. When I was in school and stuff, I had several crushes on girls, and a few of those girls, amongst others even asked me out/showed their interest in me, but me, being an idiotic shy kid, I backed away from them and never told anyone of them how I felt throughout the years. When I was a kid, I was really confident and whatnot, but that changed when I started playing computer games and starting devoting my life to them, neglecting my real life as a result and becoming anti-social. Throughout my computer gaming years, I have been in 3 online relationships, one which lasted for 2 years and the other two for 6 months each. These were all when I was younger, when I was between the age of 12 to 17. In those online relationships, I was cheated on 3 times, twice by the same girl and once by another. The third one, turned out to be a catfish, so I broke up with her.

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    March 12, 2015 at 8:30 pm #75293

    I still play computer games and have had girls that I have met on them tell me that they like me more than a friend, but I no longer e-date because of what happened in the past.

    Moving on to the real life me, I am the opposite in real life of what I am online. Online, I’m very confident when it comes to these kinds of things because it’s a lot easier to talk to a girl behind a screen and whatnot. In real life, I do talk to girls, but not as much as I would if I had met them online. This is mainly because I’m shy and don’t want to make an idiot of myself in front of them.

    Last year, I got a job in retail, in a store which mainly sells women’s clothing (they do men’s as well, but not as much). Having been working there for a year, I have had a few crushes on my colleagues, but I had to eventually move on because those crushes ended up leaving for different reasons and me, being a shy idiot, didn’t get their numbers or anything.

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    March 13, 2015 at 8:57 am #75294

    About 3 months ago, a new girl started working in the same store and on the same floor as me. She’s a very nice girl, an amazing girl to be honest. When she started working, we talked every now and then; it was her who mainly started talking to me though, mainly when she needed assistance or something to help a customer.

    Now, as time has gone by, we have gotten to know each other and have started being more friendly and talkative with one another. She normally starts up a conversation with me, asking me how I am, getting to know me, etc. Obviously, when she starts the conversation, I continue with it and keep it going. A few weeks ago, she asked me if I could swap my shift with her since both of were working on the same day, just at different times because she had a date. Since I had nothing planned and wanted to help her out, I said sure, baring in mind this was before I developed feelings for her.


    RobbyM
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    March 14, 2015 at 5:42 pm #75375

    First off I want to say that the dating world can be very tough especially if you have no experience whatsoever in interacting with girls on a different level in real form. In your situation e-dating is a release from the real world. Anyone can hide behind a computer screen and say whatever, but when it all comes down to it the old school “face to face” meet up always prevails. In your case i believe you have to build on your confidence and this starts with going out on more dates “with real women”.