I think i have messed things up…what should i do?

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I think i have messed things up…what should i do?

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    dunners2004
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    March 13, 2017 at 9:40 pm #129982
    I think i have messed things up…what should i do?

    So i met a guy 2 months ago and we kicked it off really well. We were talking every day and meeting up every weekend and having sex

    I started getting a bit needy and he started backing off a bit and told me that he wanted me to chill out. In the end i said to him that i think its best we stay friends as i was worried that i would get hurt. We didn’t talk for 3 days, but i made contact with him again and we hit it off immediately again. I arranged to meet him again this weekend just gone.

    We met up for lunch and he touched my hand and told me he really enjoys seeing me. We did some shopping and he put his arm around me. We then discussed a holiday but he then said that he didn’t want me getting the wrong idea, and that it was only a relaxing break away, not like a relationship thing. I said that i didn’t want to just be friends and said that if he changes his mind to get in touch

    I have been too intense, how do i repair this?

    richiro
    richiro
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    March 14, 2017 at 4:15 pm #130064

    what do you mean by “repair”?

    if you jmean.. make him want you again and be in a full relationship – yeah i think that’s gone.
    if you mean just make it a fun friendship and casual and nothing serious.. he’s already there, you have to decide if you can be that way too or not.

    sorry if that wasn’t what you wanted to hear.


    JaneyR
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    March 15, 2017 at 10:22 am #130126

    I think you should be open with him, explain yourself and the reason you broke it off in the first place, and what’s behind not really wanting to just be friends. He may have said what he said because he was trying to respect you, you can never really no what’s on another person’s mind until you openly talk about it. Hope any of this helped