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Nervous4lifeParticipantOctober 8, 2013 at 1:58 am #40759
I was supposed to meet this other chick Friday morning but she stood me up last second. While I was waiting on her in front of her house, she sent a text saying her mom was in the hospital. I checked with her sister and it turned out to be a lie. I knew she was seeing someone else. It didn’t bother me because our fling was only sexual no strings attached. It did depress me a little that she lied and it put me in a bad mood that I got up and around for nothing plus I wouldn’t be getting any action. It turned out to be a blessing though.
I was driving around after that all upset and frustrated when I decided I should stop and get something to eat. I saw this new bar/restaurant and decided to give it a shot. I go in and sit down and THAT’S when I saw her. At first glance I just dismissed her as being attractive but young looking to be working in a place that serves alcohol.
I could tell from a distance she was really hot but I didn’t read in to it because why bother? She would never want anything to do with me anyways. I wasn’t feeling very confident…I’m in bad need of a hair cut and shave plus I wasn’t dressed well and was running on little sleep.
She walked up to get my drink order and asked if I was expecting anyone else to show up. I looked down at the table and said no realizing that made me look even more pathetic. That’s when I decided to go for a beer. Then all of a sudden she starts opening up telling me about different beers she likes and how at her other waitress job they brew and sell their own fall harvest beer there, it’s really good and I should try it out. While she’s talking I’m staring at her face thinking wow she is ridiculously gorgeous. She had glitter on her face…Her looks mixed with her personality just completely snapped me out of my bad mood right away.
She kept coming over to check on me and making small talk. I didn’t give her much to work with I wasn’t exactly on my A game that day. I did get her to tell me her name and work schedule at both jobs though.
I left her a good tip for making my day. She repeatably thanked me and I thanked her for keeping me company.
As I went to leave she stopped me and asked me my name. I told her then she shook my hand and told me it was nice to meet me. She flashed me her adorable smile…I wanted to kidnap her right there lol.
I’m going back to see her this Friday. That gives me about 4 days to get my act together. I realize she might of just been being nice for tips but I have to at least try. I need her phone number…once I get that the rest should work itself out routinely for the good or bad.
The question is though…Should I really push for a number after only talking to her 1 time? I know nothing about her she could have a boyfriend or husband…I don’t want to be “that guy” that can’t handle women being nice to him without getting creepy and ruining it.
Should I give it 2 or 3 more visits to break the ice or just go for it Friday?
Nervous4lifeParticipantOctober 10, 2013 at 4:44 pm #40767
Oh damn I didn’t explain that right at all. The girl that lied and stood me up is NOT my girlfriend. We are NOT in a commited relationship we were just friends with benifets which we agreed on before doing anything sexual. It was a mutual agreement. The reason I got upset is because she lied for no reason and wasted my time that morning when I was already tired. Btw..even if she was my girlfriend and SHE lied and was cheating how in the **** would that of been my fault? ?
theothersullyParticipantOctober 12, 2013 at 2:42 pm #41062
Get the number first, worry about any boyfriend second.
SOLNISHKAParticipantNovember 3, 2013 at 2:47 pm #42389
It doesnt hurt to ask – what do you have to lose!
KingKeef1911ParticipantNovember 5, 2013 at 3:06 am #42447
Nothing to lose here man, go for it! You got a lot to gain, be proactive!
AnonymousNovember 16, 2013 at 12:10 am #42951
I think you should be going easy with her. Any display of desperation or needyness would be turn offs for you.
You got to be concentrating on winning her trust first. Rest will follow.
aWonderfulBoxParticipantNovember 17, 2013 at 1:50 am #42961
I say you go for it! If it works out, you get a chance at an amazing relationship with an amazing girl. If it doesn’t work out, you don’t lose anything but a little pride. You’ve got this!
princessParticipantNovember 20, 2013 at 6:40 am #43143
Before. You make your intention know to her try to know to make friend with her then ask about her before you take the next step
MP.ClanParticipantNovember 21, 2013 at 2:00 am #43199
Just go for it, you have nothing to lose and it should be a learning experience if everything fails.
cooldudeParticipantNovember 23, 2013 at 12:20 am #43321
Based on what your telling us she did have an interest in you. For a woman to go out of her way to give you a hand shake and ask for your name is a big deal. Kudos to you! When you see her next hopefully it won’t be to busy and the two of you will get the opportunity to talk. When your getting ready to leave tell her that the two of you should get together sometime soon and get her number. Unless you find out if she’s with another man, of course. Good luck!
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