I want to ask this lady out, but is it too soon?

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I want to ask this lady out, but is it too soon?

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    MosquitoSmasher
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    March 10, 2017 at 9:22 am #129705
    I want to ask this lady out, but is it too soon?

    I think this is the right place to ask this, but i am not sure because it’s not exactly about dating yet, if it’s ever going to come to that.

    I had to go to veterinarian quite a bit lately for my dog and i noticed an assistent there, a very friendly and nice young lady. The thing is, we haven’t spoken a whole lot. But i do think i’ve noticed things. I will now write what our conversations so far consisted of. Last tuesday i went there with my dog, she has a problem with her blatter. While i was waiting for the vet my dog had a small incident where she peed on the ground. The assistent walked towards us and cleaned it up right away, and i said sorry for this and she said it was ok. I then tried to make light of the situation in a friendly way by saying ”It’s a good thing they didn’t put a carpet here” and she looked back with a smile and friendly said ”Wouldn’t be very wise to put that in vet’s place.”

    As for real conversations with her that’s about it. Looking back on it i could have talked some more with her, but i didn’t. But i would be lying if i didn’t say i am definitely interested in her, as soon as i saw her i liked her to be honest. As for things i’ve noticed….the way she looked at me when i arrived there and she told me to take a seat, the way she seems to behave when standing next to me, a bit shy i would say, or when the vet was talking t0 me i noticed her glancing at me. Basically she behaves very different towards me compared to other assistents or just women in general. The way she looked and smiled at me when she said gooddbye when i left….to me it feels like the interest could be mutual. Problem is, i’ve had similar experiences in my life and i turned out to be wrong on it and that the woman in question was just being friendly.

    So……..i just need a push in the right direction. We’ve spoken so briefly i’m not sure i should just flat out ask her out next time i go there and i already know i will be going there several times either tomorrow or else definitely next week for my dog. Life is too short to dwell on stuff though, so what would you do if you were in my shoes?

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    March 10, 2017 at 2:34 pm #129785

    as a general rule of thumb there will never be a “right time” to ask. life isn’t a movie with scene setups and destiny chance happenings. so if our’e waiting for the setup – it’ll never happen. instead.. MAKE the setup yourself. ok that’s in general.

    in this siutation there is nothing that says she’s interested (she works in the service industyr and part of our job is to talk, be social, and act nice). But that doesn’t mean yo ucan’t ask her out if you are attracted and want to ask her out – but at this point you’re coming from a place of nothing says she’s interested.

    As to the “general rule” you can make somethnig out of it by talking to her and getting some conversation going beyond the general small talk based on your vet office visits. ask her about herself, about what she does outside of work, see if she asks you about you. but again..

    the only way is to ask her out (but maybe increase chances first by talking to her first)


    MosquitoSmasher
    Participant
    March 10, 2017 at 7:20 pm #129834

    Good advice and thanks for that. As for asking her what she likes to do outside of her work, isn’t that a bit personal and perhaps a bit too soon? I could maybe start with asking if she has dogs or animals in general of her own, talk a bit about that.See how it goes?


    MosquitoSmasher
    Participant
    March 16, 2017 at 8:56 am #130136

    Small update….nothing much though. That being said* i am happy with myself because i decided to talk and not give up at the last moment. Which has been something i tended to do in the past.

    Today i had to go there as well and our chat mostly consisted of talking about my dog and i asked her if she had dogs of her own. She told me she has a lot of animals because she lives with her parents on a farm. Due to her work and where it is busy quite a lot, i can’t really talk for very long with her. My initial impression was that the interest may be mutual but i really am not sure. We did laugh today during our little chat…but chances are that she’s just being friendly to a customer. I could have definitely asked her for a drink but it felt too out of the blue for me. Of course next time when i go there i could ask her how she’s doing and from there on just ask the question.


    Frankr1998
    Participant
    March 19, 2017 at 8:06 pm #130506

    No just go for it