I want to break up, but I'm afraid of what she might do to herself

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I want to break up, but I'm afraid of what she might do to herself

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    ConflictedCucumber
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    July 6, 2015 at 4:06 pm #82044
    I want to break up, but I'm afraid of what she might do to herself

    I am 18 and about to leave for college, and my current girlfriend is 16. I have been with her for about a year and a half now. She is severely depressed and doesn’t have a strong relationship with her family or many friends. I really do care about her, but I don’t want to continue the relationship. My leaving for college is not creating a huge distance for us to bridge, but it is still significant. Not only this, but I’ve also met another girl who will be closer to me and whom I believe can make me happier (it is worth noting that she acts interested but has declared nothing).
    My biggest problem here is that, like I said, my girlfriend is severely depressed and doesn’t have very strong ties to many other people. I have even had to talk her out of suicide before, and she has told me upfront that I am sometimes her only reason to live. If I were to break up with her, I’m afraid of what she might do. I don’t want her to get hurt. Please help me.


    ConflictedCucumber
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    July 6, 2015 at 4:07 pm #82045

    It is also worth noting that my current girlfriend and the new girl are friends – albeit not very close – and that their parents are very close friends.

    Follow-up question: Am I a bad guy?


    Mr Clean 88
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    July 10, 2015 at 7:42 pm #82631

    Fake your own death and assume a new identity. But seriously, you cannot hold yourself responsible for what someone else does. When you break it off with her, be firm and make it clear that it’s over. If she threatens suicide, contact the authorities. People that generally do that are only doing so to exercise some form of control over you, but not always. Also might want to let her parents know afterwards so they can keep an eye on her.