I'm in Love with My Best Friend

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I'm in Love with My Best Friend

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    fischer
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    October 18, 2015 at 10:15 pm #87032
    I'm in Love with My Best Friend

    I have had at least twenty of our mutual friends and coworkers ask us if we are dating. We always reply that we are best friends. Recently I have felt more that we should be romantically involved. He talks about getting back out there and almost everything he wants is what I have to offer. Unfortunately, I may be in the wrong package. I’m not a skinny blonde who is traditional. I am a brunette with piercings and sass. We spent a ridiculous amount of time together and always check in everyday. The other day he was having issues with other friends and mentioned that he would be okay if I was the only person he had. He talks about us going to grad school together. He always says we are just friends when we talk about other’s speculations. I’m afraid I’ll die if he doesn’t feel the same way. I asked him if he would want to know if one of his friends liked him and he said yes, but it would also be fun to find out on his own. He said if he liked his friend, he would tell her. What do I do?


    fischer
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    October 18, 2015 at 10:26 pm #87033

    Another thing! He also has never been physical with me. He always hugs other girls, other friends of ours, girls he doesn’t know. He has never once hugged me, but considers me his best friend. Is that weird? He invites me to everything, every night we do homework. There isn’t a day in the last three weeks that we haven’t seen each other. Sometimes I feel like I am already the girlfriend minus anything physical. How do I tell him I want more? Do I even risk it? How do I know if he likes me too?

    Spartan117
    Spartan117
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    October 19, 2015 at 6:42 pm #87088

    What the hell he’s never hugged you!?!?! How you tell him you want more is by simply telling him just that, best friends make for a great relationship it’s just scary because you are unsure if the other one likes you back and if he were truly your best friend, that awkwardness of rejection wouldn’t mess up the friendship at all. He will bare in mind your feelings for him though and will probably think of you a lot more often than he does now if he doesn’t like you— if he does like you back, shoot maybe he is feeling the exact same way you are! I’d give it a shot 🙂


    pops09
    Participant
    November 2, 2015 at 3:16 pm #87779

    I have been in this situation and never told the guy till much later on and he asked why i never told him sooner, we both tried but unfortunatley did not work out but still remained friends. My advice would be to tell him you don’t know how he is feeling untill you actually tell him yours!


    Dan007
    Participant
    November 4, 2015 at 8:06 am #87863

    Has he given you any kind of hints? Any flirting, any teasing? How is he when he is around other girls?
    My first true love was with my best friend. I started to get feelings for her, I told her. She got kind of scared I think, and said she did not want to destroy our friendship. I told her that I understood, and I just needed a little while apart from our friendship to get over it.
    After 3-4 weeks she came to me, said that I made her think and that she really wanted to give it a go.
    So dont be scared, just go ahead and tell him.