I'm stuck on a lame problem

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I'm stuck on a lame problem

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    July 18, 2015 at 1:55 pm #83007
    I'm stuck on a lame problem

    Guys….After a bad breakup I’ve not been on the horse for a good deal of time, so, out of the blue one day in college this girl asks me out,I’ve flirted with her before, but I’m not used to a girl asking me out…so well I don’t know what to reply…Should I date her? On a scale of 10 she’d be a 5….but I dont know if I’m attracted or just desperate to have a girlfriend….Please help me out here…Everyone is welcome to comment


    sarah84
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    July 19, 2015 at 10:43 am #83014

    You sound like you’re eager to have a girlfriend again and not really into this girl. Don’t judge her as simply as a number out of 10 – people have a lot more to them than this one dimensional figure.


    everything
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    July 20, 2015 at 8:23 am #83010

    I date girls that are not super hots. Long term looks are not what they seem, a good heart is like gold. I’ve known many men who will never get a date, never get to experience love, probably same for gals. I know quite a few girls in my building who live alone, they apparently have no intention of finding a guy, they have dogs instead.

    BenEaster
    BenEaster
    Participant
    July 20, 2015 at 8:23 am #83034

    I agree with Sarah84! You do know that you are not attracted to her. If you are feeling like you are desperate to have a girlfriend, then that is what you are.

    The answer is to improve your skills. You are going to have to practice and that means talking and flirting with lots of girls until you have no problem generating plenty of interest from women. Then you will know that you want to have one of these ladies as a girlfriend and not just a security blanket to stave off loneliness.

    If you need help with how to do any of that you can reply and ask me.


    zach94
    Participant
    July 20, 2015 at 9:37 pm #83066

    Honestly, those 2 are right on how you’re trying to settle. Never settle. But it doesn’t hurt to go out on a date or 2 with her and see how it goes. Her personality could be gold and trust me when I say this, there is nothing like loving a woman’s personality. And a 5 isn’t Bad. That 5 could jump to an 8 real quick if you have fun with her and really connect with her.