In a bad situation

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In a bad situation

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  • jayst
    Participant
    August 23, 2016 at 10:19 am #109180
    In a bad situation

    So recently, I found out that my best friend has a crush on me. I do not feel the same way about her in the slightest, but because she is my best friend, I didn’t want to ruin our relationship. The other day she asked me out, and I said yes. I can’t stay in a relationship with her, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings.


    xedeyes
    Participant
    August 23, 2016 at 12:31 pm #109225

    I guess it’d be best to first confirm what amazing person and friend she is but then say that that you could ruin the “relationship” you already have with her. Honesty always works best, even if it hurts. Not that I’m an expert but I’d also analyse your friendship up front so you can point out some reasons (other than looks aka personal preference if that would be a factor!) why it wouldn’t work in the long run (but never go too negative obviously!). I think it would show her how well you know her and she means to you and you don’t want to lose a great friend. At the end of the day, great friends can last longer and mean more than love relationships.