In a dilemma…

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In a dilemma…

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    Cuse2NC44
    Cuse2NC44
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    February 19, 2013 at 5:41 pm #23095
    In a dilemma…

    Ok so I had a first coffee date with someone this past Saturday I meet online, it went well and we both said we’d like to see each other again. I called her Monday evening but got her VM and left a message. She did not call back but I received a text message later in the evening after I was asleep that she had been on the phone with family and apologized for missing my call and was glad that I did call.

    I sent a text back this morning once I saw it and we exchanged a couple of texts. The main purpose of my call Monday night was to setup a possible 2nd date for this coming weekend. Based on what she told me she was dealing with on her call last night – it didn’t seem appropriate to ask her via text and I don’t usually like asking a woman out over text anyways.

    Ok so here is the dilemma – should I call her again tonight? I want to be respectful of her time with her children so I don’t call her until after 9 but I also don’t want her to feel like I’m being overbearing since we just went out on Saturday, I tried to call last night and we communicated via text today. The other side is I want to give her enough notice if she wants to see each other this weekend to setup her sitter.

    Probably over thinking this but just wanted to bounce it off others and see if it makes sense.

    Any help appreciated.

    carlycatz
    carlycatz
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    February 19, 2013 at 6:36 pm #23100

    It’s nice to see you want to be a gentleman but I think it’s IS more convenient over text. Set it up via text and ask her if she’s still interested in doing something this next weekend coming up. If she says yes, tell her you’ll give her a call on (Thursday) night, and you can go over a few ideas. You can always ask her if she prefers text or call, nobody cares to ask anymore so I think it’d be polite if you do. Just worr yabout keeping things at a steady pace, don’t rush a text or call just because you think you’re “losing” her. She’s busy, just like you are so keep your mind off of her whenever you have a chance to focus on yourself. She’ll tell you when she’s not interested, you just started something, no way you can predict what’ll happen next. Dunno if this helped, gluck.