Is he clueless or am I crazy?


Is he clueless or am I crazy?

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    November 21, 2014 at 3:41 pm #67910
    Is he clueless or am I crazy?

    I am a freshman (girl) in highschool who has a crush on a senior (boy). We are both in percussion in marching band and I have gone with him to a highschool play (I don’t know if he thought of it as a date, no kissing but a lot of talking and laughing). When I asked him to the play I asked him over e-mail. I know it’s bad but I was literally shaking when I tried to ask him in person. Today I offered him tickets to a chorus concert, for him to come with me, and he said he was busy. Here is my question: When he said he was busy he said “I don’t know why you feel you have to bring me to these things.” Is he completely clueless of my crush or I am just crazy? What do I do next?

    November 22, 2014 at 11:42 am #67960

    One of the main things you’re going to want to do is just try to talk to him about it. I’m the world’s worst about trying to talk to someone about things. Coming from a senior in college, a freshman in high school and a senior in high school are also on two COMPLETELY different levels when it comes to dating, and he’s probably leaving for college next year. Don’t put yourself through that, darling. Going on dates with him is fine, but don’t let yourself get too attached to him right now. This is all just coming from personal experience. He probably knows that you have a crush on him but isn’t sure how to go about it. There’s a possibility that he has a crush on you as well, but just doesn’t know how to handle it because of the age gap that you two are at right now and with him possibly going off to college next fall. My main piece of advice is to talk to him soon before you let yourself get too attached.

    Best of luck, darling!

    December 1, 2014 at 6:45 am #68393

    I think the big clue is his response: “I don’t know why you feel you have to bring me to these things.” If I really liked a girl I would jump at any chance to spend time with her. I would suggest giving it another try and if you still get the same response, then move on to someone who wants to spend time with you

    December 1, 2014 at 3:05 pm #68465

    i remember how amazing the senior guys looked when i was a freshman. they are much more manly than our fellow freshman. many freshman get crushes on seniors, girls and boys. but it is better to stay closer to your own age.
    i am sorry to tell you, but most seniors are not interested in freshman, and for good reason. remember, he may be off to college next year, and most likely will not want a long term relationship. i think he thinks you are a good person, but is trying to protect you and him from a potentially painful breakup.
    don’t be in too big a rush to grow up. be silly with your friends while you can. you will be an adult soon enough. and definitely, don’t put out to be popular. i know loneliness can be really hard at your age. you are going through a lot of changes, and day dreaming about that handsome senior is more fun than doing homework.

    December 5, 2014 at 4:26 pm #68800

    get to know him better

    December 5, 2014 at 8:37 pm #68811

    Some guys like for the girl to sincere with them about their intentions, and we guys sometimes like to do the same with girls. If you really want him to know about it, you should really try to tell him in some soft way, after you guys went out or something.

    December 5, 2014 at 8:53 pm #68819

    Addin to that guy, although be careful not to be overly confident about it.

    December 5, 2014 at 11:45 pm #68823