Is he not over her or is he just being nice?

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Is he not over her or is he just being nice?

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    ambersmith00
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    January 10, 2017 at 10:17 am #122399
    Is he not over her or is he just being nice?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He broke up with his ex to be with me.

    He told me that he had fallen out of love with her but still thinks of her as a close friend.

    He seems completely into me and our relationship but the other day I ended up coming across some Facebook messages accidentally between him and the ex…

    It seems like it was the first time she contacted him in weeks as he was telling her he had really missed talking to her multiple times and told her he was worried she hated him. He also told her he thinks so much of her and would always be there for her.

    After seeing this part of me is worried he’s not over her completely, but the other part of me knows he is a people pleaser and thinks he is saying all this because of that. My boyfriend is the type of guy who feels guilty really easily and would hate to upset anyone. She is also the first girl he ever broke up with. In the past it has always been him who got broken up with. He’s extremely sensitive.

    What do you guys think?

    • This topic was modified 11 months, 1 week ago by  ambersmith00.
    mialmagemela
    mialmagemela
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    January 11, 2017 at 9:06 am #122424

    How long have you been knowing him? I ask because how do you know he is a people pleaser if you’ve only been dating for 3 months? A huge red flag for me is that he left her for you, how do you know he’s not done that before? I don’t trust relationships that start that way. I am sorry to be so blunt, just trying to save you some time and sorrow.