Is he playing me or being sincere?

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Is he playing me or being sincere?

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    aspala
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    August 17, 2015 at 9:49 pm #84271
    Is he playing me or being sincere?

    I used to work for this guy I would casually flirt with and fantasize about. I had already filed him away in the “out of my league” category but of course there were rumors going around at work that we were sleeping together and it didn’t help matters that he was my boss. Truthfully, we weren’t sleeping together, we weren’t even hanging outside of work. We were just two people who were mutually attracted to each other that just to happened to be tied together through gossip.

    Fast forward 6 months to present day. I’m no longer working for him and he’s started to chat me up. Things started off super friendly, but eventually progressed into flirtation and a few sexy photos. He opened up to me about being married but is going through a separation and wants to see where things could go between us. He’s never given me pause to question his intentions, has always treated me good, but I’m unsure about his whole “married but separating” story.

    Do you think I’m being played?


    dashiness
    Participant
    August 19, 2015 at 3:36 am #84369

    That’s a big deal and I probably wouldn’t go any further until you know for sure that they are done. The cons really outweigh the pros in this situation.


    Avey Wilde
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    August 19, 2015 at 8:48 am #84321

    You should be extremely cautious of this individual along with his intentions. If he’s attempting to establish a relationship with you before he has completely separated from his spouse, that may imply his inclination towards infidelity . You should probably stop sending him any additional photographs (or ask him to cease sending photographs to you).You should probably not not attempt to pursue a relationship with him until his separation from his spouse is complete and if you begin a relationship with him, be extremely clear with him about your standards and how you wish to be treated along with establish and maintain firm boundaries from the time you begin your relationship. You also need to be extremely cautious of how your relationship proceeds, since although he is already interested in marriage, you do not wish to impulsively commit yourself to someone without determining whether he truly cares for you. If he disregards your standards and boundaries, he is not sincere.