Is he pulling away or gone for good?


Is he pulling away or gone for good?

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    June 17, 2014 at 12:11 am #55408
    Is he pulling away or gone for good?

    Initially I told him I wanted to be friends. But on our second date I would have been stupid to stop it. Our chemistry was off the charts.
    He kept on saying how he just knows that our chemistry and attraction will only get stronger and I agreed. In 2.5 short weeks we had 5 long dates. I wasn’t ready to be intimate with him and he respected that.
    I found out that my dad had stage 4 cancer and I needed to go in for back surgery. He assured me that he wanted to be there for me!
    4 days after we had that conversation my father passed and I never saw him again!!
    Since our dialogue was open and all about being vulnerable I felt that I can let him know that I was disappointed and hurt that he did not come to see me.. Though he had called everyday. He was defensive and right away said he \”wanted to be friends, everything is so serious and its going so fast!!”

    I understand that my circumstances were too heavy too fast. So is he gone for good or is this a space thing?

    June 19, 2014 at 10:02 pm #55713

    He has shown you his true colors – move on! Words mean nothing, look at his actions. Sounds like things were moving too fast and he promised more than he can deliver. He ignored you when your dad died?! Awful, this is not the kind of man you want and no it’s not a space thing, it’s a character thing. Don’t settle for guys like this. There are kind, loving guys out there, trust me. He sounds too immature at this point.

    June 20, 2014 at 7:26 pm #55852

    Move on. He is a jerk for not even checking on you even if he wasn’t interested. Where is his human side!

    June 21, 2014 at 6:53 pm #55858

    Although space could play a role in it, I don’t think he’s the kind of guy you need to depend on. He wasn’t good under pressure and when you needed him most, so say goodbye because you obviously need more. Good luck!

    June 21, 2014 at 11:19 pm #55867

    I agree. He should be there for the good and bad times.