Is he saying "NO" in a nice way?

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Is he saying "NO" in a nice way?

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    somegirl
    somegirl
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    September 3, 2016 at 1:59 am #110479
    Is he saying "NO" in a nice way?

    I have been dating this guy for a while but Its been 4 months since last time we were together. We live in the 2 different countries.

    He said he would move to my city this month but he said visa refused. So I wanted to make a plan to go visit him. And thats what he replies:
    “I am desperate to see you again but I also want to find out whats going on with my visa. To be honest I’m not sure what is the best. I don’t want to cause heart ache for both of us to meet and be apart again if I don’t get my visa very quickly”..

    So I took it as a “NO” so I stopped talking to him since. He did not talk to me either. Do you guys think I am right, or overreacted?


    Jensen91
    Participant
    September 3, 2016 at 3:54 pm #110498

    You’re totally right. to me he sounds a little insecure, if your desperate to see someone you take it how you can get it. The mixed signals would be a warning sign for me.


    averoes
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    September 5, 2016 at 5:33 pm #110534

    Maybe he found another girl who lives in his city. Such relationships do not become long-term


    Mr_royaldumps101
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    September 6, 2016 at 12:59 am #110537

    I think he had another girl 🙂


    Terry
    Participant
    September 6, 2016 at 2:21 pm #110600

    You did the right thing by letting him go. You deserve better.


    VariousMatters
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    September 7, 2016 at 3:29 am #110638

    Depends on how well you know him, I have told a guy that we shouldn’t see each other, even though I wanted to so badly and it hurt so much doing it. Sometimes people have pure and honest intentions, I would suggest asking him straight forward. Also tell him that you would rather want to move on with your life if he doesn’t see any prospects of success.

    tyragiana
    tyragiana
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    September 7, 2016 at 2:15 pm #110708

    You are definitely right. At this point I believe he doesn’t want to cause any pain or false expectations for you. In a way he is telling you that you deserve better than to be waiting on him.