is he somewhat interested?

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is he somewhat interested?

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    rubyredgems
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    August 16, 2015 at 1:43 pm #84170
    is he somewhat interested?

    Have had a casual relationship with a man. We went on a few dates and then have had sleepovers. At the start he was initiating texts and such, but now it has mostly come down to just setting up times to hang out. When we do hang out, we always have a really awesome time, but then it could be a couple of weeks before i hear from him. He is awlays repsonse to me whenever I text, but he doesn’t really try to hold a convo (although he has never done that really..). Whenever I initiate a hang out, he is always willing as well. The last time, when he couldnt hang out when i wanted, he seemed to feel bad and immediately planned something for the next day. Not sure if it was because he was afraid of losing a hookup buddy, or because maybe there is a little something more to his feelings? or maybe both..who knows. at any rate, i guess i’m starting to want more (ah the beauty of casual relationships) and i know i just need to ask him, or let it fizzle because he most likely (see below..)


    rubyredgems
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    August 16, 2015 at 1:46 pm #84171

    is not that into me..or he would show it..but could it be possible that i’ve played it cool too, so he thinks i’m not interested, and thus tries to play it cool on his end? he definitely knows that i’m still dating around even though i’ve never come out and said it (as is he), and i don’t text him every day or every other day, i usually wait awhile before either he texts me first or i text him, but very nonchalant. most of our texts lately, again, have been around coming over for sleepovers, but sometimes if i ask if he wants to grab a quick drink, he’ll say yes, even if he has other stuff going on…

    is it worth a chat with him or is he really just a nice guy who doesn’t want to be a jerk, but also doesn’t want to lose his hook up buddy or potential fall back option?


    Anonymous
    August 17, 2015 at 9:06 pm #84266

    Really think you may be over analyzing the texting. I myself am an extremely infrequent texter and that is due to being busy and just not liking to have aimless conversation over SMS. I genuinely prefer when women call me as opposed to text. Maybe you should just try establishing phone calls as your defacto form of communication that way you can minimize the amount of back and forth while increasing the efficiency of your dialogue. That being said the time between hanging out seems worrisome if you are both in town. I don’t understand the several week hiatuses…


    rubyredgems
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    August 17, 2015 at 9:14 pm #84268

    i don’t either! he always says yes when i plan something, he sometimes plans something himself..but i shouldn’t have to put in all of the effort! i guess maybe that gives me the answer…


    rubyredgems
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    August 18, 2015 at 9:52 pm #84364

    it’s now been 1.5 weeks since we hung out and he hasn’t texted me… i think if he was interested he would’ve at least texted once… i dont want to reach out because i just feel like if he was not trying to fade he would’ve texted!