Is he trying to cool things down?

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Is he trying to cool things down?

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    WTF
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    May 26, 2015 at 11:26 pm #79755
    Is he trying to cool things down?

    I met a guy recently in a different town, several hours away. I was there for business and we spent a good while flirting, then, basically, a week in bed together. We both had a good time, and he was awesome.

    I put something crappy in a text like “Don’t be a stranger!” Trying to be cute, but think it may have come across as “Thanks, buddy! See ya next time!”

    So, since then we’ve texted a couple of times. Today, he started a convo by asking something silly he could have asked someone else. Then I started making a few jokes, like “You just wanted to text me ;)” after answering the question.

    He replied with a “haha, it has been more fucked up here since you left.” I felt a little sting with that one, so I replied “Ouch! At least I know I’m missed at work!”

    We texted back a few times after that, mostly about work (“how was your day” etc), but nothing personal.

    Is he keeping it strictly business? Should I not initiate conversation after that?


    ljlf81
    Participant
    May 31, 2015 at 10:39 am #79919

    Just let him contact you, don’t chase him as it sounds like he’s just playing.

    GMX2K
    GMX2K
    Participant
    June 4, 2015 at 8:36 pm #80245

    Try one more time to be flirty with him (don’t let it seem like you’re just being silly and don’t make it about work or he may misunderstand), and if he again doesn’t respond to it, then move on.

    If you’re looking to date him, you could even just straight up ask him out and then you’ll get an answer to whether he’s still interested for sure.


    Kzinrette
    Participant
    June 4, 2015 at 11:18 pm #80247

    I think it’s just business. I’m a man and I usually keep work separate.