Is it cool to date your ex's freinds?

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Is it cool to date your ex's freinds?

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  • ngroy
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    June 24, 2017 at 5:07 am #140530
    Is it cool to date your ex's freinds?

    I need some unbiased opinions. My friend, a 36 year old single male is having a debate with his ex-girl/friend because she does not want to hook him up with her freinds. She doesn’t want him to date any one she knows no matter how distant the friend may be. He understands close friends are def not cool but seems to be curious as to why not distant friends or associates with whom commmunication is rare to not at all. They dated in college about 15 years ago. He is her first love. They’ve always kept in contact and she’s always had feelings for him and they have a deep connection. His ex is married but if she wasn’t she would pursue a relationship with him. Is my friend wrong for wanting to date a distant friend of his ex? or is his ex-wrong for being selfish and not wanting to see him date anyone she knows even if means a chance at happiness


    Conanthelethargic
    Participant
    June 24, 2017 at 5:27 am #140532

    I think she’s being a bit selfish, It sort of depends on who did the leaving. If he left her, I could see it opening old wounds for her. If not, if she did the leaving then she has no say in who he dates, it could be her mother if the two of them hit it off. (Though that might be a bit insensitive to her feelings) Also lets not forget her husband, she shouldn’t have any concerns for anyone other than her husband. What is he in all of this, second fiddle? Chopped liver? Sorry husband but if you weren’t in the picture I would be in a relationship with this guy in a heartbeat. She definitely sounds too attracted to your friend


    Confused89
    Participant
    June 26, 2017 at 9:53 pm #140653

    Absolutely not! Never date an ex’s friends.


    caritas
    Participant
    June 28, 2017 at 5:54 pm #140921

    …but it’s been 15 years since they dated? the rule of not dating your ex’s friends applies but if it’s been over 10 years. depends on the case and level of interest (how seriously interested you guys are in each other).


    hey101
    Participant
    July 6, 2017 at 5:37 pm #141385

    If it’s been that long go for it