is it fate? what do i do now?

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is it fate? what do i do now?

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    j2468
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    October 15, 2014 at 12:36 am #65953
    is it fate? what do i do now?

    So I dated this guy for four years (18-21) and we were truly in love – we broke up because of tension and our own personal issues conflicting. It has been almost four years since the breakup and we have both dated other people (he is currently dating someone he’s been with for 2 years – I’m single now). We’ve been chatting off and on since our break up, but moreso recently. PLEASE understand that I, in no way, support interfering with another relationship and I am really trying to respect his current girlfriend. But, he has mentioned that they are on the rocks and that he just doesn’t know about the relationship anymore. We often find ourselves confessing that we miss each other, and he sometimes turns it into something sexual which I then have to shut down immediately. He usually responds with “i’m sorry, it’s just hard to hold back since we have such a connection, which is very rare to find with someone.” All of these weird signs keep happening and I feel like we are meant to be.


    somethingclever
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    October 17, 2014 at 8:41 am #66055

    I’m just going to give you the negative ; He might just be interested in a quick fling next to his girlfriend. I have had a friend in a similar situation and basically the guy was just telling her the exact same thing as yours, but really in the end he was just looking for a little extra on the side, a little bit of excitment to then leave the girl laying on the side again, b/c he is in a ‘committed relationship’.

    If he is really interested in you and if his relationship is really on the rocks, that relationship will end, and that relationship has to end before you should start doing anything with him. I’m not saying that he should break up for you with his gf for you (never a good idea), but he should break up for himself with his gf if the relationship is realy not working anymore.

    Shadowprime
    Shadowprime
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    October 17, 2014 at 12:56 pm #66110

    That is true he may use you as the “side chick” so he would have a fall back in case the girl he is dating doesn’t work