Is it OK to go to a family gathering with significant other if the ex attends?

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Is it OK to go to a family gathering with significant other if the ex attends?

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  • forestrunner190
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    September 2, 2016 at 9:32 pm #110471
    Is it OK to go to a family gathering with significant other if the ex attends?

    After about a year of dating, I was having a great relationship with a woman, until suddenly a situation came up that seems to be a deal breaker. It is a common situation for all divorced parents. My 2 sons both have young children now, with my youngest sons 1st being born this year. We all live in different states and my oldest son and family planned a trip to visit my youngest sons new family. My SO and I were invited to join them. She never met the oldest son or saw the new baby and was looking forward to the visit; until we both found out that my ex was also invited. My ex lives near my son and she had not seen the new baby yet. I have been to similar events with the ex (marriages, births, etc.). We are cordial and the boys are happy with the way we behave. My SO thinks that one should never attend such a family event if the ex is there; not even the birth of a grandchild! I think it’s the best thing to do for my sons, and for me as well. Any comments or suggestions are welcome.