Is it salvageable or did I ruin it before it began?

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Is it salvageable or did I ruin it before it began?

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    TTG
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    November 29, 2017 at 3:00 pm #157786
    Is it salvageable or did I ruin it before it began?

    Hello everyone.

    I have recently gone through a series of events that have thrown my brain for a whirl. I met this girl through my job/friends. We had been working together on volunteer project for the company for a few weeks when I make a move. She countered with a different activity but also said she wanted to think about it. Now being a month or so after that, things went kind of quiet. I find out recently that she would have said yes but I apparently pissed her off one night and she felt I acted condescending. She told our mutual friend not to tell me as she was going to talk to me about how I had pissed her off. After conflicting schedules I ended up talking with her today. She brought it up, I apologized stating i never intended for that. She said she knows I am a nice person but I had my moments. After being told she almost said yes, I am stuck wondering if I caused a red flag enough for an implied flat no now or if I only hindered myself.

    Shannon
    Shannon
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    November 29, 2017 at 9:28 pm #157818

    Sounds like you’ve been having a hard time, I’m sorry to hear that. Do you feel something for her? I would say build a friendship, and see how things go from there. One tip-call women women and girls girls. If you call women girls, you are not relating with her as a grown up, and therefore you will get less than maturity form her, and in turn she will expect boy behaviour, not that of a man. So, go for your biggest and best happiness!! Call the women you meet women, and if they call you out on some issues, like she has, be able to go through that, learn and move on. You seem like you are open to learning form the experience, so I would say create a friendship if she’s open to it, and see how things go from there.


    jdoug91
    Participant
    November 30, 2017 at 1:28 am #157823

    I’m in a similar boat I think. At the end of the day if you’re questioning yourself too much its probably not going to work because you’re trying to be somebody she likes instead of just being you.