Is my Ex boyfriend of 3 years manipulating me?

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Is my Ex boyfriend of 3 years manipulating me?

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    girlonfire
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    October 28, 2014 at 9:51 pm #66760
    Is my Ex boyfriend of 3 years manipulating me?

    So i looked at my ex’s emails (from two weeks ago) and saw him telling his friend that he has been talking to a girl from online, but that she lives far away. He also said in the email that he thinks he might see her. We were dating for over 3.5 years and have been broken up for about a month. I am confused because when i saw him couple days ago he told me he loved me and sees us getting back together, but he also said that he isn’t trying to rush into anything or rush into getting back together with me. He also said that he had no plans to date anyone. I feel lied to because his emails sound like he did have previous plans to see someone else. I don’t want to be anyone’s last resort. I don’t know how to feel because he didn’t tell me about this when I saw him last weekend, but I also know I am not his gf. He knows I really want to be with him again, but I hope he isn’t stringing me along. What should I do to make him want to get back with me? Is he using me as a last resort?


    dyach
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    October 29, 2014 at 10:14 am #66784

    It sounds like he is stringing you along so that if things don’t work out with this online girl, who is also a rebound, then he can go back to you. Truthfully you don’t need that in your life because it can destroy your self-esteem. But I know that after 3.5 years of being together its difficult to let go, so if you truly want him back then don’t contact him for a couple of weeks.

    That’s tough I know, but you need to make him think that you aren’t really trying to get him back. If you don’t contact him he’ll wonder what’s going on with you and if you’ve moved on already. Play it cool. Don’t seem desperate in any sort of way and act like you’re okay with the breakup. I know it seems contradicting but if you seem desperate at all he may not come back to you.