Is she actually interested?

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Is she actually interested?

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    jg101
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    February 17, 2015 at 5:24 pm #73636
    Is she actually interested?

    I got to know a girl who has been at my house frequently at parties, but we just recently noticed each other in the crowd. We both were obviously interested on a pretty basic level, and last weekend, she ended up spending the night. We didn’t have sex, but we obviously got decently intimate. The next day, we were casually texting and it turned out that neither of us had any plans for the night. I asked her to hang out since neither of us had anything else to do and I figured it would be nice to spend some sober time together and get to know each other. She said she had a lot to do the next day, and so we didn’t do anything. Feeling like I kind of got rejected without a good reason, I decided she wasn’t actually interested and stopped texting her. Should I ask her one more time to do something, and maybe give her the benefit of the doubt that she really did have a lot to do? Or does it sound like she decided she didn’t want anything after the first night? Thanks for the help.

    OutofCuriosity
    OutofCuriosity
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    March 1, 2015 at 1:32 pm #74433

    I’m in about the same situation actually. My girl also comes up with excuses that sound like she wants to avoid me. I even think she ignores my texts as they are marked as “not seen”. But I have tried contacting her via texts like about 4 times, asking if she had any plans. But back to you. If you give up after the first time, she is not worth the trouble. If you really want to get to know this girl, you should try again. Maybe she is just shy. You have to figure out how many times you can ask her out yourself. I tried 4-5 times before realizing she really is avoiding me. It would just be awkward, and I would come off as really obsessive if I ask her one more time.


    kg1997
    Participant
    March 2, 2015 at 4:15 pm #74517

    I wouldn’t just assume that she is trying to avoid you. Maybe ask her to hangout in the near future and see how it goes. It sounds like to me that she just really had a lot to do the next day. If she wasn’t interested after the first night she wouldn’t have hung-out with you.