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is this a sound plan for a possible first date?

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    NotSoILie
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    October 4, 2013 at 11:21 am #40618
    is this a sound plan for a possible first date?

    Hey all,

    So I met a woman a week ago, hit things off pretty well, hung out a little over the week. Anyways, I think I’m interested in her, and there is at least a chance that the feeling is mutual.

    I was thinking about asking her to lunch this weekend, and essentially asking her if she wants to continue this relationship romantically or just as a friendship. Does that sound like a sound plan, or is that question too forward? I should have no problem working it into the conversation; for whatever reason I have no problem making small talk with her like I typically do in one-on-one situations with women.

    Anyone care to weigh in on this?

    skrillex4life
    skrillex4life
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    October 16, 2013 at 10:37 am #41296

    I would be careful being to forward this early. Try to have a nice lunch date and then instead of giving her an ultimatum like proposal just ask her out for something else. Step it up a bit, like a nice dinner or a day trip or something.

    AnimalLover
    AnimalLover
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    October 16, 2013 at 10:38 am #41299

    It sounds like you have a good thing going, but if it has only been a week I would say to hold off on the labels for now. Enjoy yourselves and get a feel for each other before trying to jump into a relationship. I would say have lunch with her, get to know her more as a person, and avoid the forward questions because putting her on the spot after spending very little time with her is a lot of pressure. After a certain amount of time, it usually becomes clear whether or not someone wants to be in a relationship or not, so don’t worry about it and just enjoy your time getting to know each other in the meantime.


    NotSoILie
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    October 16, 2013 at 10:43 am #41305

    Thanks for the replies. I ended up doing the lunch date sans ultimatum, and things went well. Date#4 planned for this weekend

    candydude
    candydude
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    October 16, 2013 at 11:08 am #41315

    Thanks for the replies. I ended up doing the lunch date sans ultimatum, and things went well. Date#4 planned for this weekend

    Good luck buddy, sounds like you got this.


    michael
    Participant
    October 22, 2013 at 9:23 pm #41693

    Congrats on everything working out 😀

    robson921
    robson921
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    October 26, 2013 at 11:56 am #41967

    Nice to hear that everything went well 🙂 Good luck


    salyerj
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    October 27, 2013 at 10:45 pm #41970

    Good stuff. I suggest that you just focus on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up. Don’t overcomplicate things. Let her be the one that brings up the exclusivity.


    RandomPoster
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    November 1, 2013 at 9:12 am #42288

    Glad to hear things are working out. I agree that it is never a good idea to give someone an ultimatum … relationships are fluid and resist being pinned down early.