Is this considered a date or a waste of my time?

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Is this considered a date or a waste of my time?

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    carlosescarlos
    Participant
    January 12, 2017 at 5:50 pm #122863
    Is this considered a date or a waste of my time?

    I’ve already had 3 dates with her, and I asked her on a 4th. She rescheduled it, then cancelled again, hours before the date. I initiated several times over SnapChat/text, both dead-end convos. She never initiates them. A month later, I replied to a Snapchat photo of her working at an animal rehab viewing center. She told me I should visit and gave me her work hours. Should I go? Is this considered a date? I also don’t want to seem desperate by agreeing to go. It’s already been almost 2 months since our 3rd date.


    cheeks
    Participant
    January 13, 2017 at 5:48 am #122869

    I wouldn’t consider it a date just meeting up but if you like her then go for it dude.


    logansrun
    Participant
    January 13, 2017 at 8:32 am #122873

    I wouldn’t consider it a date. I think she might just be trying to be nice. If you really wanted to still visit just to see what the vibe is then maybe take a friend with you so it doesn’t look like you’re just going there to see her. Play it cool and casual.

    carol1973
    carol1973
    Participant
    January 13, 2017 at 10:01 am #122910

    It sounds like she might not be into it, and no it’s not a date. Go visit, but I’d prepare to move on. Just FYI, women are being told, time and time again, to not initiate, with the idea that, if a guy is into us, he will do the initiating. I’ve read it over and over in magazine articles and advice columns.


    needadvicedc10
    Participant
    January 16, 2017 at 9:28 pm #123228

    Sounds like she’s moved on. Sucks, but radio silence for a while and then MAYBE send her a text in a month or so.

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    January 18, 2017 at 10:03 pm #123602

    1. you should go. she invited you. she wouldn’t do that if she weren’t interested.
    2. it is NOT a date. so you will want to ask her out when you go visit so youc an have a date.

    her answer will let yo know what her interest level is.

    Good luck.


    Dreieinigkeitsmoses
    Participant
    January 19, 2017 at 1:46 am #123632

    I don’t think that’s a date


    JackSpedicy
    Participant
    January 19, 2017 at 3:29 am #123634

    Not a date but I would go for it