Issue with staying hard

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Issue with staying hard

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    blasta90
    Participant
    February 19, 2014 at 11:05 pm #48061
    Issue with staying hard

    Ok so there is this girl I’ve know for about 10 years. We met when I was 13, I’m 23 now. We went out for 1 year 4 months when I was 16-17. During that time we never had sex because we were very inexperienced. I never cheated on her during that time. Over many years we stilled remained friends on and off. I was her 1st true love also. It always bothered us that we never had sex. Recently we’ve reconnected and began seeing eachother. We were able to have sex but a different issue occured. During sex I went limp. I became frustrated and thought she wasn’t intimate enough with me. I also thought about how all the times I watched porn that it may have corrupted my mind and expanded my expectations during sex. Her and I come from different sexual backgrounds. I’ve mostly had one night stands with many women and she has just been with 2 boyfriends longterm that she has made love to. I haven’t made love to her. I am very attracted to her and she does turn me on.


    blasta90
    Participant
    February 19, 2014 at 11:06 pm #48062

     I haven’t made love to her. I am very attracted to her and she does turn me on. We’re both in love woth eachother. But for some reason I find myself losing it during sex. We’ve had sex about 7 or 8 times now. The problem is that it kills her mood right away and makes a big deal about it. Now she’s to the point where she doesn’t feel like doing it anymore. I told her she needs to be more intimate with me but how can she be when she just doesn’t feel it anymore. I don’t believe my expectations are outrageous but at the same time I won’t settle for amateur sex. I don’t know what to do but all I know is if she is not intimate the way I want her to be, then I don’t think its going to work out.


    loudeygust
    Participant
    February 20, 2014 at 10:18 pm #48157

    The more you think about this problem the worse it could potentially get. It doesn’t necessarily sound like you have had this problem in the past so don’t over think it and make it a bigger problem it happens.

    Foreplay can be a wonderful tool that you can use to your advantage. Just because you guys start hooking up doesn’t mean you have to go all the way. Spend some time teasing her.

    Come up with new ways to interact. The rest will follow if it’s meant to be.


    scotlandsfinest
    Participant
    February 21, 2014 at 6:11 am #48161

    It can be a horrible thing for you, dont overthink it and if you want peace of mind you could try things like tadalafil etc to feel a bit better, use it as a self improvement tool. If you did decide this route only use reputable stockists .


    andrew
    Participant
    February 21, 2014 at 2:00 pm #48187

    Ever considered a cock ring? It keeps you hard and prevents premature ejaculation.


    SundayMorning
    Participant
    February 24, 2014 at 5:47 pm #48343

    That could be from a various amount of reasons which I’m sure you could find on the internet (different things like drug use, circulation, negative thoughts during sex, etc.). I had a boyfriend with this problem and we seemed to have more success with positions where he was standing or sitting up where the blood could more easily flow to his penis. Maybe try that?


    Anonymous
    February 24, 2014 at 6:09 pm #48348

    dang that sucks. my ex had the same problem. He tried the cock ring and it actually helped for a while. Then he got tired of using it, and things went back to how they were lol.


    pbx39
    Participant
    April 11, 2014 at 6:12 pm #49049

    WTF means “more intimate”???? YOU have a limp dick and you blame HER??????
    Amateur sex? Man….you sound extremely egoistic in that post