It's complicated

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It's complicated

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    Bohrddude
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    January 7, 2016 at 5:48 pm #91290
    It's complicated

    Several months ago I was dating this guy. Things seemed to be going really well, he seemed really into me, and I was really happy to be with him, but long story short is I got insecure and screwed things up between us. We’ve remained friends since then, and are both currently dating other people. He’s frustrated by the inability to “get commitment” from his new guy (odd given that he was just out of an LTR when we were dating, and wanted to take it slow then, and it hasn’t been but a few months). The guy I’m seeing now is clearly pretty into me, and it seems like it should be a good relationship except that I’m still caught up on the ex.

    I do value having him as a friend, but I also still kind of want to be more than that, and I don’t know what to do about it. Ask if there’s any hope between us? Just cut ties so that I can move on? Stick with the status quo and hope it works out one way or another? And is it fair to keep dating the new guy in any of these cases?

    Walker97
    Walker97
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    February 11, 2016 at 10:57 am #93373

    I can’t give advice on the ex situation, but don’t lead your current boyfriend on. It is unfair to him especially if your not over your ex.

    KillinYouSoftley
    KillinYouSoftley
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    February 23, 2016 at 12:14 am #94121

    I agree with what Walker97 said, PLEASE don’t lead the current guy on, because that’ll hurt him and you. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum and they both feel terrible.
    If this current guy seems like a better option, then cutting all ties with the Ex, is your best bet to being happy.
    However, if you want to try things over with your ex, and hopefully fix those problems you had in your previous relationship, then I’d say give it a try and hope for the best.