Kicked out for coming out

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Kicked out for coming out

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    C. Price
    C. Price
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    February 8, 2013 at 11:12 am #22187
    Kicked out for coming out

    Hey everyone! Brooke needs some help, can anybody give her some advice?

    I have been interested in women since I can remember, but, I didn’t acknowledge it until last year. I couldn’t hide it anymore so I talked to and came out to a good friend who is also a lesbian. Most everyone I have come out to have accepted it, and some were even like, “it’s about time!” The problem lies with my family and surrounding community. I am from a religious family and all, and I was kinda forced to come out when I wasn’t ready to. Well, I was threatened with being kicked out, disownment, etc. therefore, I ha to go back in the closet. I have to pretend that I like guys, and that when I go out with a girl it’s just a “girl’s night.” I can’t keep living like this, it making me depressed. I can’t afford to be kicked out out and all because I am a college student, and my family and I were once close, I hate to lose them. I keep saying that when I can finally move out it will be fine. I really don’t know how to handle the situation.
    -Brooke
    Please help!!!!!

    SandraDee
    SandraDee
    Participant
    February 8, 2013 at 12:08 pm #22201

    That’s crazy you were forced to be straight!! I mean thats just ridiculous!

    Find some local LGBT community groups and join LGBT clubs on campus and become educated. No use in hiding at all.

    You don’t need to live a double life. If your family doesn’t like it then don’t bring it up until you’re strong enough to stand before them and say you’re a gay woman. If that means taking your time, saving some money and finding a new job to pay for an apartment of your own, then DO it.

    your parents are just stubborn and don’t understand, be mature about it and find a way to get them to see things from your POV. Don’t rush it, you were already rushed before and that didn’t work well for you so take your time!


    genesis58
    Participant
    February 11, 2013 at 6:28 pm #22350

    I agree with sandra. There’s no point in fighting this if you’re too young to stand up against your parents financially. Read up and prepare yourself for a debate, you need to be ready to tell them that your choices shouldn’t be changed based on whatever idea they have on what’s right or wrong wen it comes to who you love.

    kellyanne
    kellyanne
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    February 12, 2013 at 9:54 am #22378

    How do you pretend to like guys long enough to where others won’t obviously notice? I think it’ll hurt you in the long run if you keep pretending so don’t avoid/ignore this and try your hardest to fix it…and by fix it I mean work on yourself, not what others think!

    mixerz77
    mixerz77
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    February 14, 2013 at 12:50 pm #22755

    Brooke honey, this is no time to go back in that damned closet! I can see where you may be in a sticky situation since it seems like you can’t move out but the ladies have a point. Although you don’t want to rebel against your family and lose their trust, you can still come out as a powerful young woman, who fights for justice no matter who disagrees with you.

    bubblyjo
    bubblyjo
    Participant
    March 13, 2013 at 5:54 pm #25860

    Classic case of our parents pulling the mom and dad card. Threatening your life choices because you don’t “fit in” in their eyes so they give you an ultimatum. I say you find a job and move out. Why live in constant guilt. You should be free to enjoy your life and not let anyone hold you back.

    WhitneyR
    WhitneyR
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    April 30, 2013 at 6:33 pm #30116

    That’s wild! Well get away from there! You should never intentionally stay somewhere you know is bad for your emotional health. Don’t stay where you’re depressed!