Lack of interest after first date

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Lack of interest after first date

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    C. Price
    C. Price
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    February 20, 2013 at 10:06 am #23115
    Lack of interest after first date

    This post was sent in by Norma Jean. Can anybody help her out?

    I am a 60yr old divorced twice female. I have dated many men from a online dating site. My problem seems to be a lack of interest after the first date from most men I date. Im told Im attractive and very personable, intellegent with a fun sense of humor. I try to be honest and kind etc…. I’ve had so many first dates and then dont hear from then again or a few dates and find myself making all the effort to keep it going with no real interest from the other half. I dont get it. I have read all the self help books and tapes and the dos and donts of dating. Im doing something wrong and dont have a clue where the problem starts. Help!!

    MaddieLine
    MaddieLine
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    February 22, 2013 at 11:54 am #23486

    Maybe you’re coming off a bit too desperate? Maybe you’re saying too much on the first date and not leaving a guy to wonder what the second date might be about. It’s ok to know what kind of man you’re looking for and to have a plan but sometimes men are scared off too easily when all they see is a clingy woman…I’m only assuming here so if I’m way off, let me know. There aren’t many details in your post.

    PeytonMan
    PeytonMan
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    February 26, 2013 at 10:52 am #23672

    I agree with the little lady. Take it easy on the first date, if guys are being scared off a lot it’s probably is because you’re saying too much right off the bat. It’s ok to weed out the men you don’t see potential with but don’t lay out your guts on the dinner table.Make sure you’re compatible after a couple dates then make a decision. Don’t make him call all the shots, you have just as much say.


    ItsRobA
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    March 15, 2013 at 12:36 am #25990

    Are you waiting for them to contact you, or are you making contact with them after the first date? If you text message, I’d say there’s nothing wrong with sending a text a few days after the first date just saying hi, and seeing where it goes. Let them know you enjoyed the date, and see how they respond. I’d recommend waiting a few days if there wasn’t an instantaneous, obvious chemistry on both sides; otherwise if you try contacting them too quickly, it may scare them off. I don’t know your entire situation though, so I’m mostly speaking generally.