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    March 3, 2014 at 3:18 pm #48696
    Looking for advice

    So I recently started talking to this girl. I think everything was going well. The thing is she lives an hour and a half away, not really a problem as we made plans over her spring break. So my problem is things were going so well I got a little eager and may have over-texted and made myself seem clingy or obsessive. Is there a way to recover from this or am I overthinking things?

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    March 3, 2014 at 4:37 pm #48719

    Take a break from texting her. You are being too clingy which is a turn off to girls. You need to create some space between each other to let the aire of mystery and anticipation return.

    Don’t text her for a couple days and see how she reacts. Under texting is better than over texting.


    March 4, 2014 at 11:17 am #48777

    Your good for now, it shows your interest in her. Now what you must do is ease back a little and kinda wait for her to call or text you. Give it a break for a few days. The power of absence is key here she’ll call no worries!

    March 5, 2014 at 1:22 am #48804

    if you fear you may have came off too clingy then you prob. did. you can still recover. providing your just nervous not actually clingy. if your just nervous then give it some time to blow over an try again. key is, dont stress it.

    March 7, 2014 at 7:54 pm #48960

    Overtexting and any traits of obsessiveness is really bad for a new relationship. It scares your partner.

    March 11, 2014 at 3:53 pm #49098

    Yes, you do the opposite of clingy, without fear that she’s going to run. If she starts walking away somewhat due to your clinginess, she won’t be going too far before she gets the feeling that you’re not so clingy as you’re letting her walk.

    But of course, that’d depend on what you mean by “clingy”. To some, avid conversation is “clingy”.

    Communicating is like a dance. It’s all relative to the other person. Don’t do/say too much when they’re slow-dancing. Ride with it, but never over-do it. It’s a pretty simple thing. You may be over-thinking it because she could have just had her interest drop. That will happen sometimes due to other things — not being clingy (although being the opposite of clingy can have them come back somewhat when they’re losing interest).

    March 11, 2014 at 4:19 pm #49106

    Don’t really see anything wrong

    March 13, 2014 at 1:01 am #49173

    Give it a break a couple days then text her again. Keep the conversation short. Eventually increase the message length. match the text length of her messages to yours.