Love & Lost.

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Love & Lost.

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    MunkaTwo
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    January 19, 2017 at 1:51 pm #123748
    Love & Lost.

    I’ve recently just gotten out of a relationship with the love of my love, someone that had struck me from day one; entangled in her web of happiness and joy. — She’s gone now. She left on a Tuesday some odd week ago. I was so broken. I was so destroyed. Everything was so perfect, but, come Tuesday afternoon? It was like the ship had sailed and sunk in the ocean.

    She came home, didn’t wish to speak. I didn’t respect those wishes. I needed to speak with her. I pressed and pressed, longed for contact and closure. I made alternate accounts when she blocked me and desperately grasped.

    She said she will press charges. I’m at a dead end. She is the love of my life. We just need to speak about this. She has to still love me, she has to know it can work. I see her online with other guys, playing games and doing whatever. It hurts so much. I need help. I need support.

    She said she didn’t love me anymore. She said she hated me so much. Help me.

    woodj3
    woodj3
    Participant
    January 21, 2017 at 1:34 pm #124016

    Sounds like you’re hurting. If you are not respecting her wishes to be apart from you then you’re clearly showing that you don’t care for her and don’t want what’s best for her. I think you’re being extremely selfish. You’re making multiple accounts and spying on her online? You need to stop doing that. She’s obviously not the love of your life if she doesn’t want to be with you and if you don’t respect her. I’d recommend researching the greiving process and following yourself through it. All in all, from one individual to another, you might need professional help. Don’t be afraid to make phone calls and find someone to help you regulate your emotions. Seriously.


    Sw00n
    Participant
    January 23, 2017 at 9:05 am #124012

    There has to be more to this but sadly there probably isnt. she just said to you “i dont love you anymore” and just ended the relationship? If thats the case, thats fucked up. im also going through a heartbreak. ive been reading this book thats been helping me and maybe itll help you too. its called ‘you can heal your heart’ by Louise Hay.

    if shes talking about pressing charges, theres really nothing you can do except accept that the relationship has come to an end and be thankful to have felt love. Im here if you need someone to talk to.

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    February 2, 2017 at 1:38 pm #125472

    let her go. love and a loving long-term relationship takes 2… not 1.
    at this time you are the only 1 interested in pursuing this.. not her.

    you are doing some shady things to try and force her to talk to you and that brings up potential LEGAL ramifications like stalking, restraining orders, etc. YOU DO NOT want to go into the book and have records of the legal variety under you name over this.

    let her go. NOW.


    sappygirl2k17
    Participant
    February 5, 2017 at 12:14 am #125737

    you are in the process of getting over someone. Although, lurking on someone’s profile page is normal for this stage, I don’t think stalking and continuously trying to speak to her will be good for you. It’s okay to keep looking at someone’s profile page or wanting to know what they’re doing today but I don’t think it’s okay to make them feel threatened. You should find healthier ways to put that sad energy somewhere else. i hope this helps


    l0u15
    Participant
    February 5, 2017 at 9:24 am #125742

    Spend time with more people, you have already establish a long bond with this person and only way is to establish a stronger bond with someone else

    F1end
    F1end
    Participant
    February 6, 2017 at 12:41 am #125763

    Get over it the same way as all the others. Whiskey, pornography, seeing other girls, and moaning about her to your friends/family.

    I think you need to realize that there are plenty more where she came from. She isn’t some sort of irreplaceable angel, and that you have her on a pedestal.

    You should always love yourself over any woman IMO. Start doing that now. Use this as a platform to sort yourself out.

    I once heard a really good phrase: “you get better, or you get bitter”. Never let another person turn you into a stalker, or whatever. Stop focusing on her. Start thinking about yourself, and planning your next chapter.

    In a few years, you’ll probably laugh at this. I’ve been there.