May have screwed things up after 3rd date, need advice from anyone

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May have screwed things up after 3rd date, need advice from anyone

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    gradstudent91
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    July 24, 2016 at 6:21 pm #106367
    May have screwed things up after 3rd date, need advice from anyone

    Met a girl on a dating app a month ago. Second date we hooked up in my bed (no sex) and were very excited to see each other again. Texting each day and whatnot. The following Saturday after the second date, she invites me over for a movie. We watch the movie and then our minds go elsewhere; the sex is good but the condom ends up breaking on me but I forget to check after, she finds out later and takes Plan B and tells me she’s pissed and it’s not cool that I didn’t tell her, and that she doesn’t want to hang out again. I apologize and she backtracks, says she isn’t that mad and she will probably be down to hang out again, but needs space. I don’t text her for 4 days (so until last Thursday) and when I do I just ask to talk; she says no hard feelings about last time and that it was fun.

    Ok. But since then, we have barely texted each other and I am afraid that I ruined things. Any contact between us has been terse, but I really like her & want to ask her out again. Any advice?


    gradstudent91
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    July 24, 2016 at 6:31 pm #106368

    Since I didn’t have enough characters, I have completely considered the possibility that the sex was just bad, but I think it would have been more obvious because she did seem like she was really enjoying it. She basically send me a text the night after and told me how upset she was about the condom thing; I feel like if the sex was bad she wouldn’t have retracted her statement when she originally said she didn’t want to hang out again. So I am just really confused and lost and am looking for advice from anybody who might be willing to listen or who has maybe been in a similar situation, because I really like this girl but I don’t want to waste time dwelling on it and move on with my life if she isn’t interested.


    ab765
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    July 25, 2016 at 3:27 pm #106435

    I had a similar thing happen to me. I was dating a girl for short period of time, maybe a month. We went out drinking one night, didn’t have a condom and decided to hookup anyways. I guess I got a little baby batter up there and needless to say she was pissed when she found out. I felt really bad and apologized. But, I didn’t waste any time letting her know how I felt about her. We ended up dating for two years and were married for another eight. My advice is if you like her don’t waste too much time letting her know. After something like that your reaction is going to give her insight into the kind of man you’d be if she gets pregnant in the future.