Me & my friend like the same girl! Help!

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Me & my friend like the same girl! Help!

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    jackrlehman
    jackrlehman
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    February 20, 2016 at 10:13 pm #94011
    Me & my friend like the same girl! Help!

    So me and my best friend like the same girl, we talked about this recently, and i lied and said I used to like her, and he said he does like her. He feels like he deserves her (which he does) and I wish I would just not get in the way. The girl is a friend, who I talk to a lot, we have common interests and hobbies, while my best friend doesn’t have those attributes with her. He doesn’t want me to talk to her that much, but I can’t help myself, when her & I talk, our conversations are full of light, but when he talks to her, he talks about nothing but himself, and she seems to be board. I am afraid to make a move, as it has multiple bad outcomes. Plus I am un-sure that she likes me, or him. It’s very hard to read her.
    What should I do?


    teo.xara
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    February 21, 2016 at 7:22 am #94018

    This is a big problem, i thing you have to choose between a friend and a girl, and the worse of all is to lose them both. if your friend make anything with that girl, at the end of the day he will not want you to be around (as he doesn’t want you to talk her now). So the best you can to is to sit down and talk face to face with your friend.
    But based on my experience, if i were you, i would not care about my friend ( i was with a girl around 3 years and my bro took her. Both, my ex and my friend didn’t care about me so… )and i would do what makes me feel good, like make the first step.

    jackrlehman
    jackrlehman
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    February 21, 2016 at 10:40 am #94023

    Alright thank you, I will consider that.


    darkfaith
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    February 22, 2016 at 9:07 am #94016

    Man… this is a bad position to be in but I feel like he is the one in the wrong… In the end it’s really her choice. not his or really even yours. If he can’t accept that and be happy for you, he’s not much of a friend anyway…

    djames
    djames
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    February 22, 2016 at 12:00 pm #94074

    You need to find out if she’s interested in him at all. If she isn’t, you need to have that talk with him. Lay it all out and be honest, he might be mad for a bit but it won’t last. Neither of you are close enough with this girl to drive a wedge between your friendship.