Met, and like a guy, but he has a record.


Met, and like a guy, but he has a record.

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    March 24, 2018 at 2:18 am #168315
    Met, and like a guy, but he has a record.

    Alright, here is the deal. I met a guy online recently. He is very attractive, respectful, and he knows how to have a conversation. The big problem is that he has a criminal record.

    To put it as bluntly as possible, he and I come from very different backgrounds and are opposite in certain ways. However, he has been entirely honest and open with me about his situation. He admitted to battling a serious addiction (currently sober) which led him down a terrible road and to a crime that got him locked up for a while- and that getting locked up is probably what saved his life. He seems intent on making things right in his life, especially for his son who he lost rights to as a result. I really want to believe that what he is telling me is true because he never attempted to even hide it, he wanted me to like him and accept him for what/who he is. Frankly, I find that honesty and vulnerability extremely attractive. Makes me hopeful that maybe we could heal/grow together. Thoughts?

    • This topic was modified 2 months, 3 weeks ago by  jvj0981.

    March 24, 2018 at 5:24 pm #168329

    It would be an issue if it was something he purposefully hid from you. But it truly takes a man to admit his mistakes. He had a rough past and has tried to make the best of a situation by learning from his mistakes. It’s great he is honest with you. That’s so important and very telling of his true character. You will know in your gut if you can trust him. Follow your gut!

    March 24, 2018 at 5:35 pm #168331

    Thank you for your input. I appreciate the positivity and honesty. To be honest, I am still a bit nervous about the situation as it is still early yet but I guess we will see where things go. I see so much potential in him as a person, and if it happens that we are able to make a relationship work, I would be thrilled as I am sure he would be too. I just don’t know what the next steps will look like.

    March 28, 2018 at 12:11 pm #168787

    Just don’t be careless. People make mistakes and people change he may be a great guy now and totally worth your time. At the sametime you know he has done and could fall back into.

    March 28, 2018 at 2:09 pm #168816

    This is just ME, so you don’t have to agree but at least keep it in the back of your head, people already have issues and demons to battle with clean records, do you think you can deal with demons he has still left to battle that are probably way harder than what you’re used to? I know I’ve suffered even with the best most together men. Maybe keep him as a friend and get to know him like that first.

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