Mid-30's Dating Frustrations

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Mid-30's Dating Frustrations

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    phoenix7
    phoenix7
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    July 14, 2014 at 10:42 am #57366
    Mid-30's Dating Frustrations

    Forgive me for using fishing as an illustration for my post. Throughout my 20’s, I didn’t date as much as my friends since my focus was on other things. Whenever I did seek out dates and relationships, I’d cast out the net both into my circle of friends and online dating and would get a lady or two interested. Fast forward to my late 20’s, which seemed like prime waters for me, where I at least had a woman or two keep their eye on me even while I was in a relationship.

    If I compare myself now to the me of my late 20’s, imo I’m a better catch. For instance, there was a brief period of time in my late 20’s that I had a weight problem, yet again, I had better luck with dating. After a bad break, I took a solid year off from dating to focus on my own life, which I don’t regret doing. As a result of that, I ended up getting more into endurance sports (cycling and running) and eventually it lead to me becoming a triathlete who finished some long distance events.

    to be con’t…

    phoenix7
    phoenix7
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    July 15, 2014 at 8:41 am #57367

    …con’t

    Back in 2012, I took up dating again, signing up for a couple dating sites, thinking that I was a better catch than the younger me, being in better shape, having been stable on my own for years, etc. I did get a couple dates here and there, yet of course the women were around 25-35. I came to find that it was harder to date older women for reasons that are common knowledge on the internet.

    I’m asking how someone like myself, mid-30’s, should adjust. Ever since my last birthday I haven’t been able to get a date. I know I’m not undatable, though my age may falsely indicate that I either have a history or there is something wrong with me. I fear this will become even more challenging as time rolls on.

    I’m looking for advice on how to be more datable as a man in his mid-30’s. How can I get my foot in the door and how can I get past all the initial dates and into a relationship?