Mixed signals


Mixed signals

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    April 11, 2015 at 7:44 am #77083
    Mixed signals

    So I’ve recently re-connected with a girl I haven’t spoken to or seen in 5 years although she is a daughter of a family friend. We’ve met up a few times, she would stand close, sit close, and I would catch her looking at me so got the vibe she might like me. She asked me out on what I thought was a date but later said she would have to postpone as something came up. We have recently come back from a holiday with her family, mine and another. While we were away she seemed to be distant with me and would ignore me, and talk to the other guys. I have to admit I was frustrated and it didn’t go un-noticed by some. So I’m confused, does this girl like me but is just shy or is she not interested in me that way. I asked her if she was interested in rescheduling the “date” but I’m still waiting for a reply. Should I just be upfront with her and tell her I like her but I’m confused as to whether we’re friends or possibly something more?

    April 11, 2015 at 4:11 pm #77085

    I think you should take initiative! If you, as the guy,are into this girl, don’t be afraid to take a chance and ask her out!

    April 11, 2015 at 8:06 pm #77088

    If she asked you out I doubt her behavior can be explained by timidity. Plus you saw her go talking to other guys so it seems shes sounds more like a flirt than like an introvert. There might be several reasons why she keeps sending you mixed signals, but remember that when a girl is genuinely interested in a guy she will keep the playing to a minimum. It could be her interest is low, but she still wants to see in you the desire for her that makes her feel desirable. I wouldn’t write her off yet, but I would seriously consider pursuing other girls as a priority.

    April 12, 2015 at 1:07 pm #77097

    Thanks guys, I hear what you are saying. My thoughts are have I misunderstood her and is she just a flirty girl, and was the date actually just friends nothing more.

    I did ask her if she wanted to reschedule the cancelled date a few days ago but I haven’t had a reply. So I’m thinking I might leave it a couple more days, then text her being upfront saying something like “I’m really into you, bit I’m confused are we just friends or maybe something more, can you tell me what’s going on”

    See what happens, at least I’ll know for sure, either way.