My girlfriend is shy about comin out

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My girlfriend is shy about comin out

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    kellyanne
    kellyanne
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    December 20, 2012 at 2:51 pm #19194
    My girlfriend is shy about comin out

    I’ve been with my girlfriend for about just over a year and we’ve had to hide our relationship around her family because she hasn’t come out. My parents know so we always sleep over at my place or hang out with my parents. She’s so comfortable around them and they are so accepting of her but she’s worried about coming out to her family because they’ll probably be really rude about it.

    They only see me as a best friend whenever they see us together and I make the effort not to show affection when there’s times I just want to grab her and kiss her in front of her parents and say “She’s Gay!!! She’s all mine and you can’ stop us!!” ughhh. so frustrating.

    Any advice?

    kellyanne
    kellyanne
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    December 20, 2012 at 2:52 pm #19195

    Sorry for the rant, I’ve been going to other forums to see what other girls think so any help would be appreciated.

    mixerz77
    mixerz77
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    December 21, 2012 at 10:24 am #19300

    Don’t pressure her too much. Although you’re anxious to share your love, it really isn’t your place to decide how she should live her life. Comingn out is a choice she has to live with regardless of how others take it. Coming out isn’t just for others, it’s for the person too. Like she needs to be confident in herself that this irreversible choice is one she’s ready to live with.

    kellyanne
    kellyanne
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    December 27, 2012 at 12:38 pm #19513

    Yea, it’s been hard for me to bite my tongue, I’m so eager it’s frustrating 🙁 Any advice on how to push her closer to my interests of coming out? I don’t want to trick her but I want to reassure her I’ll be there for her!

    bubblyjo
    bubblyjo
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    January 15, 2013 at 3:03 pm #20737

    I can see what you mean, you feel like you got put BACK in the closet with her, but all you want her to do is enjoy the beauty of coming out. You have to realize it’s a completely different situation than yours, no matter how many similarities you see. Plus, she’s got YOU breathing down her neck, not cool.

    Back off a bit and I think she’ll appreciate support, not impatience.