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Need advice on Approach

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    IronandWine1976
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    June 20, 2014 at 7:50 pm #55854
    Need advice on Approach

    Met a lady online. Conversation was really good,interest aligned. Moved to texting after a couple days. Agreed to setup a first date for this weekend. Couple days of normal text messaging occurred and then I sent her a “how was your day message” and she responded not good. A good friend of her had passed. Offered myself to talk and made sure she knew if she needed anything I was there. Later that afternoon as I was heading home from work, I checked in on her. I offered to drop her off dinner and anything else she made have needed. She accepted and also asked me to join her. That night we spent about 5 hours talking. Held her for some time while she was crying. Didn’t approach any physical stuff considering the circumstances.

    2 days passed and our texts have been brief in nature. Normally I am the initiator. Her text seem short in nature. I did follow up on our date today and she said she was still in.

    Should I go on date, then give space?

    terryl
    terryl
    Participant
    June 21, 2014 at 8:33 pm #55861

    You may be reading too much into all this. And that’s really difficult to avoid when you’re really into someone! But if she’s up for the date I say go ahead with it and above all play it cool. It’s great you were there for her during a hard time, but you don’t want to risk becoming the ‘nice’ guy (the puppy dog). My advice, try not to analyze the words and tones of her texts. Relax. Remember the whole point is to enjoy yourself. And just see where things lead. Best of luck!


    IronandWine1976
    Participant
    June 22, 2014 at 11:30 am #55869

    Thanks Terryl! Date went great and I think you hit it head on. Thanks for the response.