krukrungyParticipantSeptember 30, 2016 at 12:54 pm #112882
So I met this guy in an online game. We’ve been friends for a month until he asked me out in the game. At first, I thought it was only just in the game so I agreed and then I felt like when the months passed by, he’s getting serious towards our relationship. I like him. We’ve been together for 9 months now and he opened a topic about nude pics. He knew that I’m not the kind of girl who would send something like that because that wasn’t my thing. I grew up in a very conservative family and no matter what, I will never ever send one. He said porns and such couldn’t arouse him anymore so he asked me if he could ask someone else to send him a nude pic. If you were me, would you be fine just by thinking your guy asking for other girl’s nude pic? I mean, it really hurts but I couldn’t do it. I feel like I’m not the one for him. I feel like I’m not good enough. And guess what? I let him. Idk if i’m too understanding or just plain stupid. What should I do? What should I tell him?
mralohaParticipantOctober 2, 2016 at 1:25 am #112920
Don’t do anything that would be out of character for you. Do things that complement what you believe in life. Nude pics can have devastating effects in the future so be wise and make smart decisions.
JoygraceParticipantOctober 4, 2016 at 9:42 am #113138
You shouldn’t do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I understand you feel you have been with him for a long time. But if it makes you uncomfortable then I advise you not to. Have a conversation with him and try to explain why you feel uncomfortable doing this. It’s up to you. However if you do decide to send him nudes. Do it in a way that protects your privacy. Snapchat is one way. You could send him a picture that he is only allowed to see for a few seconds until the pictures is erased. And you both agree to not take screenshots. Also, don’t be the only one sending nudes. He has to send some too. But like you previously said, you don’t want to so you don’t have to.
Me_tooParticipantOctober 6, 2016 at 4:39 pm #113461
Hi, I hoped you have not send him any picture.. Just like everyone here has been saying, do not do anything out of your comfort zone, when in doubt, always step back. A guy who is really into you won’t need porn or nude pics to get him excited. You already don’t feel comfortable in this situation, this is not like asking you if you want to try food that you know you don’t like, this is intimate stuff. Be careful.
josephddiazzParticipantNovember 29, 2016 at 1:03 pm #118462
Don’t do anything you wouldn’t fell OK with. If you’re not comfortable sending pic, don’t do it.
open2adviceParticipantNovember 30, 2016 at 9:02 am #118514
If your not comfortable sending him pictures, don’t. If your not comfortable with him asking another woman for pictures, tell him so. What you want matters too.
richiroParticipantDecember 1, 2016 at 1:31 pm #118713
Go with your gutt instincts on this one. What do they tell you?
Have you felt this wasn’t a compatible/good relationship for a while? Then it probably wasn’t.
Do you feel that maybe you just didn’t handle this one occasion correctly otherwise it’s fine? Then talk and correct it and see how it goes.
In general.. there is a balance to always consider. Being open-minded or being open to do what makes your partner happy b/c that’s what (in healthy relationships) is supposed to happen vs. what you are genuinely against or not comfortable with and don’t see as part of what you can accept in your life. There are no rules here (anybody that tells you a “rule” – don’t listen to them). Everybody is differnt. So part of this is deciding what this is for you, what’s right for you, who is right for you, and if this fits for you – either b/c your’e open to it for him or in general, or are not thus you seem to be incompatible.
jimmysivanParticipantDecember 4, 2016 at 4:21 am #118984
I don’t think you should do it, those pictures could end up anywhere on the internet and you’ll never be able to take them down.
aoe67ParticipantDecember 4, 2016 at 3:37 pm #118989
Wait, you have met right? Or is this like an online relationship?
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