Only had one real relationship, can't get anymore

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Only had one real relationship, can't get anymore

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    Pixelanian
    Pixelanian
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    August 1, 2015 at 10:38 pm #83486
    Only had one real relationship, can't get anymore

    Ok so I’ve really only had one relationship. Long story short, it was long distance, I thought she loved me, but it turned out she lead me on just so she could get to my best friend (not friends with him anymore btw). Between then and now, I’ve tried getting dates with a couple other girls I know. First one I tried, ended up friend zoning me straight out. The second one, a little more subtle, but still friend zoned quite quickly. Now there is a girl who’s interested in me, but she’s also interested in another guy, and she says I have to wait for her to decide. I’d also like to point out that the other guy happens to be my (not) best friend I mentioned before, and also happens to be her ex. I really like her, but honestly I’m scared she’ll go back to her ex. When they dated before, he made her miserable every single day. Another thing is, recently I caught her giving her ex a bj, not gonna say how I caught her.I’m willing to look past that, but I don’t understand.

    Pixelanian
    Pixelanian
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    August 3, 2015 at 8:38 am #83487

    How can she still like her ex, even though she was miserable the whole time they dated? I’ve told her multiple times before I considered dating her that she was in a toxic relationship with him and she’s better off without him, but she just thinks I’m intentionally trying to drive her away from him. In a sense I guess I am, but it’s for her benefit not my own. She doesn’t see him for what he really is, even though all her friends, all my friends, and a handful of other people can tell he’s not a decent person.Is there any way I can get her to see that? Or do I just wait and hope she doesn’t date him again?