Out of the Friend Zone and Into…?

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Out of the Friend Zone and Into…?

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    sawce
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    September 20, 2013 at 2:00 pm #39420
    Out of the Friend Zone and Into…?

    My friend and I of ten years just recently decided to become sexually intimate. We both agreed it just felt so natural like it was something that was meant to happen and couldn’t figure out why we put each other in the friend zone for all these years. She starts telling me how no other guy compares to me, how she thinks my family would really like her, and we both decide we wanna see where things go but we want to take it slow. When we hang out we both initiate physical contact equally, either she’s sitting on my lap and she never turns me away if I go in for a kiss and we have slept together more than once. Anytime I come over she wants me to sleep over and not just come by for a couple of hours. Anyway here is the problem. All of a sudden we go from talking almost daily (now and again we won’t speak for a couple days) to I haven’t heard from her in a week. She’s back in school (she’s going for high honors and made deans list last semester), she’s working on trusting me because she knows about my player ways, and months ago she got out of a relationship that really hurt her and she told me she’s just starting to feel pretty again (and she’s very pretty and exotic lookin), and she’s a single parent. I know sometimes people needs space but what do I do in this situation? I dunno what’s going on and I’m not used to actually dating women just multiple flings, but she makes me wanna be different.


    sawce
    Participant
    September 20, 2013 at 2:02 pm #39421

    Also I meant to add…I have Instagram…she doesn’t answer my calls or texts but she will log in and start liking my posts…what the hell is going on here?

    foreversingle
    foreversingle
    Participant
    September 20, 2013 at 4:40 pm #39427

    Perhaps she’s just having an unusually rough or busy week and doesn’t feel like talking to anyone about it? If this is the 1st time where it’s been as long as a week, I wouldn’t overreact quite yet. I know the waiting hurts, but there’s probably a reason she’s not talking, so I would wait it out to show her that you respect her space.

    TFerguson
    TFerguson
    Participant
    September 26, 2013 at 2:11 pm #40029

    I think you have it right, foreversingle.

    Good luck!

    onlinegirl
    onlinegirl
    Participant
    September 26, 2013 at 2:30 pm #40079

    Also I meant to add…I have Instagram…she doesn’t answer my calls or texts but she will <nobr>log in</nobr> and start liking my posts…what the hell is going on here?

    There are some people who feel more comfortable flirting online then in real life. this could be it.

    LikesToTan
    LikesToTan
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    September 26, 2013 at 2:37 pm #40089

    I think you won’t get her out of the friend zone until you ask her out to be in a relationship with you. She is probably really busy with school and making sure that you are the right one for her. Just move on with your life, she will come back to you.