Really confusing situation

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Really confusing situation

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    leocarter
    Participant
    November 23, 2014 at 8:25 pm #67996
    Really confusing situation

    I’m in a confusing situation. I’ve been chatting with a guy (“Ted”) on a gay social networking site for about a year, except for when I took a 4-month break from social media. During the break, I met a guy (“Bill”) in real life and we started dating. I was sure I’d told Ted about Bill. Two months ago, Ted asked to meet for coffee and I agreed, thinking he meant as friends. He thought we were on a date, was hurt and upset, and told me he had feelings for me. I apologized, but made it clear there we weren’t going to get together. Then I told Bill about it, and he broke up with me. It’s been six weeks, and Ted suggested having coffee as friends. I think he still has feelings for me. Ted’s smart, kind and cute, but I might or might not end up having feelings for him. I don’t want to hurt him again, I don’t want it to look like I was looking for another boyfriend while still with Bill, and I’m really busy with work right now. But I at least want to keep chatting with Ted online. What to do?


    Brolindavidor
    Participant
    November 24, 2014 at 1:18 pm #68031

    I think you should take some time off and do you. Meanwhile you will find out what you really want and hey you might even get back with your ex.


    throwaway__900
    Participant
    November 24, 2014 at 11:09 pm #68122

    Just be honest with both of them. Tell them everything you just said. And take a break.


    Anonymous
    January 5, 2015 at 3:41 pm #69918

    Agreed!! Throwaway__900 be honest & forthright as you can, then back off from both. Date yourself….


    whaleman12
    Participant
    January 5, 2015 at 6:28 pm #69934

    just be honest you have alot going on right now


    PrincessSolo
    Participant
    January 21, 2015 at 1:05 pm #71353

    I would try to stay friends with Ted and not completely rule that option out but in the meantime take a break to get your head right.


    fiesta_04
    Participant
    January 29, 2015 at 6:17 pm #72222

    Honesty with both is always the best policy

    Pipeliner85
    Pipeliner85
    Participant
    February 8, 2015 at 5:04 pm #72843

    yeah i think a break definitely would do the situation the best.