REJECTED, feeling horrible, but I still want him..

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REJECTED, feeling horrible, but I still want him..

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    girlonfire
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    October 12, 2014 at 1:39 pm #65736
    REJECTED, feeling horrible, but I still want him..

    I was talking to a guy for about a week and finally went on the first date with him. During the date, I felt like the chemistry instantly and definitely liked him. He held my hand, even kissed my hand, we made out a lot. He was a complete gentleman. Toward the end of the date however he told me that he couldn’t see it going anywhere long term and told me he didn’t want to waste any of my time. I am not sure what i did wrong, but I was confused because he definitely seemed interested in me during the whole date. I still like him and want to make him see that he should give us another shot. I just don’t know how to go about doing that. I haven’t been in contact with him in about a week. When should I contact him and how should I go about it so I don’t scare him off and make him like me again.


    SillyEvelina
    Participant
    October 12, 2014 at 7:55 pm #65739

    I don’t really know the best thing to do, but if I was you I would ask him if he could tell me why he didn’t see it going anywhere. I think the week that has passed was a good amount of time, so I would contact him today or tomorrow.

    I wouldn’t be comfortable calling him, but I’d try to use something more instantaneous than texting. If you’re friends on facebook or something else, I’d do that. Otherwise I guess I would text him. Just start out with something like “Hey, how have you been? I’d like to ask you a question.” and go from there.


    girlonfire
    Participant
    October 14, 2014 at 8:39 am #65850

    I asked him why when he told me he didn’t see it going long term and he said that the chemistry wasn’t 100% there and that he thinks I am feeling more chemistry than he is feeling. He also said that I rushed into kissing him too quickly during the date given that I kissed him 30 min into our first date. Btw, he did kiss me back and throughout the date he was kissing me a lot. I do think he probably got scared that I would want to jump into a relationship with him or move too quickly since I was very open with my feelings toward him during the entire date.


    girlonfire
    Participant
    October 14, 2014 at 8:41 am #65851

    He told me that he felt that I was feeling more chemistry than what he was feeling and that our chemistry was not on the same level. He also said that it was a turn off that I kissed him after 30 minutes into the date.


    Closybear
    Participant
    October 14, 2014 at 8:44 am #65888

    The fact that he was forward enough with you to have intimacy (kissing etc.) on a first date implies that he is attracted to you, so you obviously caught his attention on the date. However it is wanting something casual rather than a relationship therefore he is letting you know that now so you don’t develop serious feelings or get your hopes up. I would personally ask him what his intentions are and if you are on a similar wave length then carry on seeing each other/keep in contact however if he is after a casual fling and you want something more serious and worth while then the best thing is to thank him for his interest but move on and look else where 🙂