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DaveLParticipantDecember 29, 2012 at 2:11 am #19714
So, I know this girl from work for about a year but mostly just in passing. We’re both in our mid twenties. I’ve always thought she was cute but, didn’t really act on it because I actively try to avoid work relationships because I actually have a bit of authority there… Anyway, a few weeks ago I needed someone for a group date and she mentioned that she wanted to see the new movie we were going to so I invited her. We started hanging out after that, cooking dinners and cuddling up during movies and TV. We actually were spending most of our free time together. I really thought (maybe think) that a more permanent relationship might be possible. And, while we were “hanging out” she actually landed a new job at a new company. However, I sent her a text on Christmas Eve, then Christmas day but with no response. I understand that, especially in an early stage, the holidays are busy but, still, no response was a little disappointing. So, I gave it a day without any contact and then invited her to a date this Saturday. I know she read the text almost immediately (stupid iPhone tells me when it’s read so I stressed even more) and it took her nearly a day to respond. She said she’s got family coming in so she can’t… Which, sounds like a completely legitimate excuse. Anyway, I’ve seen her at work and we still laugh and joke around together but, I don’t know if she’s lost interest, feeling overwhelmed, too fast, or if she’s just legitimately busy for the holidays.
I suspect that she’s probably legitimately busy and also possibly thinking that we’ve been spending too much time together, maybe moving too fast. But, I need people to confirm or challenge this. I don’t normally stress this much but, I actually have started thinking that I really, really like this girl and I don’t want to screw it up. So, I was going to let the weekend pass and maybe a few more days before I contact her again to give her a little room to breathe but, I’m curious to know what other people’s suggestions would be…
DaveLParticipantDecember 29, 2012 at 2:24 am #19715
I should add that after the first group date and me asking her out a second time, she invited me over a few times too.
KurtisParticipantJanuary 4, 2013 at 9:27 am #19946
Sounds like you did stress a bit much with the pressure of the holidays. I think you did the right thing to invite her instead of wait for her to invite you out.
I think if you do have a chance to go on a date with her again you should try to ask her what she thinks about you. Sounds like you’re curious to see how she’s labeled your relationship so I think it’s only fair you ask and see what she says…
I’ve seen girls like to snuggle up during the cold/holiday nights though so be prepared to be just a “filler” in her life too. She might’ve been lonely and looking for attention so don’t take it personal if you find out you were only a temporary “high” to her.
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