should i ask her out even besides my roommate?

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should i ask her out even besides my roommate?

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    kiterider12
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    November 29, 2013 at 8:18 pm #43688
    should i ask her out even besides my roommate?

    Met a girl 9 months ago and at the time my roommate was very into her. We all hung out all the time. She turned into a pretty good friend of mine. From week one this girl made it very clear to me she was unintrested in my roommate, then in july she flat out told him he had to back off. She and I still talk and hang out from time to time..if we do end up talking on the phone, we talk for a good while.

    She is a VERY southern girl and the guy needs to do all the work, I know that for a fact with her. During thanksgiving she invited me to have dinner with her family. which i took strictly as platonic. But i have strong family values and fell for her over dinner.

    Do i ask her out? and not worry about my roommates comments? he is currently deployed (thankful for his service)…but it is a no go for him…but I think there is a chance and want to ask her to accompany me to my companies holiday party. Thoughts?


    JohnX
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    December 2, 2013 at 5:17 pm #43739

    If she made it clear that she is not interested in your roommate, then I think it’s fine to ask her out. It’s good that you respect your roommate, but 5 months is more than enough time to get over a crush when the girl actually told him to back off. He needs to move on, and it doesn’t sound healthy if he still likes her enough to object to the two of you dating. It’s not right for him to decide who either of you get to date, and I don’t think you should have any qualms about asking her out. I would still try to be respectful towards your roommate (i.e. show some restraint around him like you would your parents) until he gets over it, but keep in mind it’s his job to move on, not yours.


    thatguy28
    Participant
    December 3, 2013 at 1:24 am #43753

    I think that it would make things awkward if you had a relationship with this girl. If I was your roommate I would be pretty mad. Thats kinda breaking the bro code. So unless your willing to find a new roommate you should just be friends.